12 Easy-to-Make Wedding Etiquette Mistakes
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I read this article on HuffPo the other week when it was published, and hung on to it, because I thought it was a good one worth sharing.
It runs through 12 etiquette mistakes that engaged couples make through the course of planning their wedding—and mistakes is actually a good word for what these are, because while they’re not full-blown, blatantly rude, gaspable offenses (well, for the most part), they are little things that are either confounding or inconveniencing or annoying—or not fully acknowledging—your guests, and can really easily be avoided.
And ahem, here we have my addendum to a few of the 12. On the subjects of …
- Sending an invite to someone you know can’t make it. This piece says that sending an invite to someone you know can’t make it reeks of gift-grabbing—but I’m not so sure. The etiquette that I had always heard was that it’s nice to send an invite anyway, just to show that yes, really, seriously, they are invited, and to give them the courtesy of both the invite, and to formally decline. Though maybe that more applies to those who you believe won’t make it, as opposed to knowing for sure. I will do some investigating on this and report back, but in the meantime, I do not personally feel that it is rude to send an invitation to someone you know can’t celebrate that day.
- Cash bar. Gross, gross, gross. Not OK, not ever. I am a broken record on this. Find another way to save.
- Not feeding the band. This is a good one, because, as we have mentioned before, although it would seem like common sense that you have to feed your vendors—they are there working for you that day for a bajillion hours, after all—it somehow just seems to be one of those things that easily falls by the wayside in all of your planning. Don’t let ’em starve!
- You don’t have a year to send out thank-you cards. Like it says, you have three months. (Tip: Here’s how to make that undertaking less painful.)
- Saying hi to each guest. You really do have to. Here’s how to fit ’em all in.
Anything missing from here you’ve encountered along the way, either in planning your own wedding or being involved in someone else’s?
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