Bride-to-Be Blogger Jennifer: Asking My Bridesmaids

Well, I promised creative ways for asking your bridal party to be in the wedding …  and unfortunately, I cannot deliver on that. I got some great ideas from friends and websites, but when it came down to it, I just blurted it out.

The most creative thing I managed to pull off was for my sister Judi who I asked to be my Maid of Honor. We are scrapbooking addicts. We can scrap till the cows come home. As part of my college graduation gift, she created a scrapbook filled with memories from the day I was born. She is much more patient and creative than I, but I had to do something unexpected. Knowing we were going to be together scrapping soon, I created a page for her that said “Will you be my Maid of Honor?” and wrote something really sappy in a hidden note on the page. She didn’t see it coming and I am really glad I gave her something she can hold onto from that day.

For my bridesmaids, I just couldn’t think of something that was truly us — though most of them would argue that something sappy would be me. I did have a few ideas I was considering:

• Sending each girl a flower with a note asking her to be in the wedding. I love hydrangeas and know they will somehow come into play on the big day, but logistically, I didn’t think this would work.

• A coworker suggested that I bake something for them and write a message across the top. I loved this idea but did not have the time — she suggested it to me the same day I intended to ask them — to pull this together.
In the end, Jessica, Lea and Kelly were coming over for dinner and we were talking about wedding plans and I pretty much just flat out asked them mid-conversation … as was the case a couple weeks later when I saw Tina and got the chance to ask her.

As for the men, they are still in the dark, for the most part. Though Anthony did speak to his brother and he is on board with the Best Man duties — and of course, already thinking ahead to the bachelor party.

There are a lot of creative ways out there if you think about it and plan it out — but I got anxious, and just couldn’t wait. (Which seems to be a slow but steadily growing theme as the big day approaches.) How did you ask your bridesmaids to be a part of your Big Day? What other cool ideas have you heard?

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