Sleep & Tell

Does your boyfriend need to know how many sex partners you've had? Plus: A body conundrum only your mother can help you with

Hello, Monica!
My boyfriend asked me how many men I’ve slept with. Is this a question a woman should answer? — S.C., Center City

If you don’t answer the question it seems like you are hiding something. This gives you the perfect opportunity to ask the same question back to him. The answer to his question truly depends on the number of men that you have slept with. If you can count them on one hand, just tell him. If you need to involve your fingers and toes in the head count, then perhaps you might want to rethink your approach. Maybe only count the ones who actually slept over or those that you have had relationships with. Remember men want women with experience but not too much experience. In the end they want to feel special and amongst the very few. Be a lady when you respond. [SIGNUP]

I am in my late 40’s and divorced with two kids. My boyfriend asked me to go away on a beach vacation. At my age is it appropriate to be wearing bikinis? — D.F., Blue Bell

If you’ve got it, flaunt it. Hollywood stars over 40 sport bikinis and look amazing. Think: Demi Moore, Courteney Cox and Madonna. If you are not of that ilk, then tankinis and one pieces may be the way to go. If you are not sure, ask your mother. I don’t know a mother who loves their daughter enough to lie about how they look on the beach in a bikini. The bottom line is that you have to feel comfortable. If there is any question in your mind, invest in some sarongs at Cameo.

Monica Mandell, Ph.D. is the Director of the Philadelphia office of Selective Search, the premiere (off-line) upscale matchmaking firm for the most eligible singles. Please send your questions to: