Even for brides who have an awesome mother-in-law-to-be and an awesome relationship with her, your groom’s mom is just never going to have the same involvement in your wedding planning as your own mother is. And if you aren’t exactly all comfycozy with your MIL, well, then, she’s even less involved. And really, now is the time to foster a good relationship with the woman who bore your soon-to-be husband. When you marry someone, you marry their family, after all.
Whatever your relationship with this particular lady, it's just a nice thing to do to include her somehow with your wedding planning, and I thought this piece on HuffPo had some really great suggestions for ways to do that. They're "safe"; they don't take anything away from either you—or your mother—but they are real, legitimate ways to bring her into what you're doing and involve her in what's going on.
What ways have you found worked well when it comes to looping your MIL in on the wedding planning?