Bride-to-be Blogger Jennifer: A Few of My “Favor”ite Things

Etiquette—or at least the information about wedding etiquette that I have found — says that you have to give your guests a small take-away, a token, a reminder of their day at your wedding.

I’ve looked through magazines and pondered over personalized chocolate kisses, M&Ms, almonds and tulle, heart-shaped cheese-spreaders and coffee scoops, picture frames, coasters, scented candles and soaps. And to be honest, it’s a little overwhelming, and some things are downright strange.

I stumbled upon a website discussion thread that asked people to write in about the worst favor they ever received at a wedding. Seems a lot of people did remember these things — but not favorably (pun intended).  One woman said she received a set of fake birds. Another brought up a separate problem entirely: The wedding was held at the height of summer and chocolate was the favor. At the end of the wedding it was melted chocolate. So not only do you need to decide what favor to give — but you’ve got to take into account the season, too? Speaking of candy, I also read about the indulgent candy bar that some people are opting for. That sounds like an awesome idea, but I suspect comes with a hefty price tag.

The further off-the-beaten path I go, the more I keep reading that most people just don’t want or don’t keep the favor anyway. To be honest, unless it’s chocolate — which I will most likely eat in the car on the way home from a wedding — I haven’t kept many either. So I’m not sure what we’ll do.

What do you think an appropriate favor is? Do you have a favorite (or least favorite!) favor from a past wedding experience?

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