Is It Cool to Propose on Fan-A-Vision at a Phillies Game?

Plus, some follow-up first-date etiquette

Is it romantic or horrifying to propose to someone on the fan-a-vision screen at a Phillies game?
Ready to Pop the Question in Northern Liberties

You have to know your audience. Is this going to be the greatest thing ever, or is it going to be a flop? Is she someone who would want to share this intimate moment with 40,000 others on hand? If the two of you enjoy being in the limelight, and are both Phillies fans (in this town we all are!), this will certainly be a story for the ages. A marriage proposal should be sentimental and yet momentous, in that you will want to share your story with your children and grandchildren. Proposing at Citizens Bank Park can be hugely romantic. You will be amongst so many like-minded Philadelphians who will surely embrace the moment with you. Along with the wonderful future that you have planned, and the perfect words that you have chosen, please make sure to check the weather forecast!

Dear Monica,
What do think about calling a guy to say thank you after the first date? Is this considered desperate or good manners? —Kim, Jenkintown

Assuming that you would like to go out with him again, calling after a first date to say thank you shows class, appreciation and interest on your part. In this day and age of e-mails and text messages, it would be so welcoming to receive a phone call. If he had a good time on the date as well, this overture will certainly help to land you a second date. You can never go wrong by extending a nicety. Go for it.

Monica Mandell, Ph.D. is the Director of the Philadelphia office of Selective Search, the premiere (off-line) upscale matchmaking firm for the most eligible singles. Please send your questions to: