Bride-to-be Blogger Kathleen: Trying To Be Patient About RSVPs


I’m starting to realize how important it is to always RSVP as soon as you get an invitation to an event.

I’ve never had to plan an event with RSVPs before, so I never really thought much about response time. I figured that there is a reason for the deadline, and so if I meet the deadline, it’s no problem. However, I’m learning that even though the RSVP deadline gives you a few weeks, you really should send out your response as soon as the invite comes in. You don’t really understand how much stress one can encounter over the RSVP process until you are on the other end of it, especially when the event is a wedding.

I usually never get the mail, but now that we are expecting RSVPs, every day after work I rush home to the mailbox. If Christian beats me to it, my first question to him is, “Did we get any responses?”  If the answer is “No,” my head droops down, my shoulders fall forward, and I drag myself upstairs to get changed into my “fat pants.” I feel like the kid who got skunked on Christmas. However, if the answer is “yes,” I almost skip around the house in a childlike manor and set forth to collect my “treasures.” At first, we had a ton of those ballerina-type days. But the responses have started to dwindle, and I’m starting to get nervous.

I think at the end of the day, we will be fine. However, I am learning that I’m not as patient as I thought I was. I’m not angry or annoyed; I’m just anxious and worried. We need quite a few more “yes” responses to meet our quota, so the sooner we find out if we need to implement Plan B, the better. We still have about two weeks until the requested deadline, so I just need to keep calm and carry on until that time. I’m sure I have enough last minute tasks to keep me busy until then.

Did you stress out over your RSVPs? What did you do if they weren’t all in at your deadline?


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