Philly Love Story: Allie and Mikey Ilagan

Mikey Ilagan, a 30-year-old Web developer and editor of, and Allie Ilagan, a 26-year-old marketer, talk misconnections and modern love.

Video edited by Alexa Carroll; royalty-free Music from Bensound

PM: You guys met via social media before you met in person?
Allie: I had a really popular food blog at the time, and he made a bunch of comments on the site. He was also sending me emails and following me on Twitter. And I never responded.
Mikey: All of these things received not a bit of attention. That changed several months later when we met at a mutual friend’s birthday party.
Allie: And that’s when I noticed him. A lot. [laughs]
Mikey: You effectively made the first move. I’m not the suavest of all gentlemen. I probably would have never made a move and taken that regret to the grave.

PM: Do you remember the moment you became an official couple?
Allie: I remember when we were Facebook official. It was, like, a big deal. I don’t think either of us was looking for something serious when we started, and then it just kind of happened.
Mikey: You know, I wasn’t like, “Oh, this girl is gonna be my wife.” Maybe it was something I was thinking later that year … maybe a couple years later. I’d heard once, “When you know, you know.” And for me, it was a matter of knowing maybe that Wednesday and then buying the ring that Sunday, then proposing that following Wednesday. Before buying the ring, I called respective family members to inform them —
Allie: Not to ask. That was a big deal.
Mikey: Yeah, that was a specific thing for me. I wasn’t asking for anyone’s permission, because the only person whose permission I was concerned about was hers. Her parents are pretty progressive and understanding.

PM: So how’s married life?
Mikey: We’ve been married for four months. Not too much has changed. Her last name —
Allie: I took his last name. People don’t tell you the boring part of newlywed life, like combining assets. That’s really romantic.
Mikey: Let’s find a great cell-phone plan. Awesome, awesome.
Allie: Otherwise, newlywed life has been great. Being married is not a magic button that turns your life into rainbows. But I do feel a distinct difference between being girlfriend and boyfriend and being married. It feels good.
Mikey: I know my favorite thing … I don’t have to call her my “fiancée” anymore. It’s, like, the dumbest word. Who likes saying that word? For at least half of our engagement, I tried making the word “pre-wife” happen.
Allie: Didn’t work.
Mikey: Also, I could have said “ex-girlfriend,” because you were my fiancée.
Allie: No.
Mikey: No. Okay. On a serious note, you know, I’m happy to be moving on to the next stage of our lives together.

More Philly Love Stories

Originally published in the February 2015 issue of Philadelphia magazine.