Help! My Boyfriend Is Obsessed With His Ex

by Ask Monica | March 16, 2012 9:09 am

Dear Monica, I am dating a man who does nothing but focus on his ex-wife. Whether we are with his children, by ourselves, or with other couples, all he does is talk about her, their past and whom she is dating.  Is it normal that he is so all consumed about her? —B.K., Radnor

Let me tell you bluntly: All this ex-related chatter is an indication that your guy is not focused on you, your relationship or your future. The only thing on his mind is the ex. Clearly he is not over her and probably was burnt to a crisp. There are situations where talking about the ex is reasonable. Obsessing about her every move is not. Check out these tips for talking about an ex to a new partner.

If you are not ready to date, you should not be dating. When you enter into a relationship, each party ought to be treating the other with dignity and respect. If your partner is only concerned with his ex, her whereabouts, and whom she is sleeping with, he should be calling a marriage counselor and trying to get back together with her. Clearly your guy is not in love with you, as his heart is elsewhere. Move on before he causes you any more embarrassment and wastes more of your time. Find someone who is actually single and free of his past.

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