Valentine’s Day Survival Guide

Simple tips for keeping your partner happy on the most romantic day of the year

Dear Monica, I really want to get it right this year. What do you suggest I do to make my girlfriend happy on Valentine’s Day? — M. W., University City

Valentine’s Day is a big deal — especially for the single crowd. But married men pay attention! Just because you took a vow does not mean that romance is over.

When you are courting a woman, February 14th is a clear opportunity to let your sweetheart know that you are thinking of her and want to make her feel special. Since Valentine’s Day falls on a Monday you still have the chance to make sure all your bases are covered.  Be certain that you put your plan in motion before the weekend.

I suggest the two-pronged approach, delighting her both at home and at the office. This can take the form of simple gestures like a rose at her desk or romantic cards and chocolates on her night table. Remember anything that makes her co-workers go “ooh” and “ahh” will earn you more distinguished brownie points. A note on her pillow inviting her to an intimate dinner on Monday night will surely win her heart.

Guys, you have no excuse for this — Monday night football season is over! If you would rather stay home, cook a romantic meal and light candles. Have fabulous wine or champagne paired with aphrodisiacs such as oysters as an appetizer and a decadent chocolate dessert. No need for a main course with this type of menu. All women love creativity. Take the time to write a few thoughts on her card. For the literary types, see if you can put together a poem expressing how you feel.

Valentine’s Day is not about what you spend, but rather the time that you share together. Whether you go for a velvet box with a bow or a framed photo of the two of you, her heart should melt from all of the effort and love that you put into the day!

Monica Mandell, Ph.D. is the Director of the Philadelphia office of Selective Search, the premiere (off-line) upscale matchmaking firm for the most eligible singles. Please send your questions to: