Ask the Expert: Do I Have to Include My Evil Sister-in-law?

Question: I really don’t get along with my future sister-in-law, but she had me as a bridesmaid in her wedding. Does that mean I have to have her in mine?

Answer: Kimberly Fink, owner of Philadelphia’s Kimberly Fink Events, does acknowledge that it’s your Big Day — but points out that’s it’s also a day when your two families join together as one. “Sister-in-law drama is not a good way to start a relationship with your in laws,” she says. “If you and your fiancée really decide that it isn’t the right thing to do, then you can honor her with another role, such as a reader. But otherwise, think of it as an investment in the stability of your relationship with your fiancée’s family. Your sister-in-law is going to be in your life for many years to come, and you never know how your relationship will change in the future — especially when there is good will on your part. Plus, it’s usually worth it to avoid unnecessary conflict.” Bottom line? “Suck it up, sister, and send over that cute little ‘Will you be my bridesmaid?’ card!”