Philadelphia novelist Larry Benjamin and his longtime partner, Stanley Willauer, were married at the Philadelphia Wedding Chapel in East Falls on June 28th. The date, Benjamin tells me, has particular significance—not only is it the day of their original commitment ceremony 17 years ago, but the 45th anniversary of the Stonewall riots. Here, he shares a little more about their day:
Steve Meyers and Scott Rollick were all set to tie the proverbial knot in January, when Scott came down with an illness that landed him a two-month stay in the hospital. Needless to say, the couple, who had been together 27 years, were forced to put off their big day a little longer. That wait came to an end on May 3, 2014, when they became husband and husband in a lovely ceremony at their home in Marlton, New Jersey.
Sometimes you just don’t know you need something until you see it. But now that we know Federal Donuts wedding cakes are a thing, we definitely will be disappointed by the next wedding we go that doesn’t have this at the dessert table.
Philadelphia Wedding has all the details on the Fednuts Wedding cake.
We’re Obsessed: It’s a Federal Donuts Wedding Cake! [Philadelphia Wedding]
Federal Donuts [Foobooz]
Let me confess: I’m a lucky guy. When I started courting my soon-to-be-wife back in 2005, she quickly let me know she wasn’t a diamond kind of gal. So when I proposed, it was with a (very inexpensive) garnet ring, made by a local jeweler, of her choosing. When we got married, we sealed the deal with simple gold bands. And we did so at a wedding that we did our damndest to make as cheap, fun and low-maintenance as possible. All of which proved, as far as I was concerned, that we were a good fit.
So it’s possible that I have a bias when I ask the following, very-serious question:
Are American weddings destroying our economy and our society?
First thing’s first: I’m sure that Seth Adam Smith is a really, really nice guy. If you’ve seen the pictures on his website and read his writing, it’s clear that Smith has got a kind of earnest, freshly scrubbed All-American handsomeness, along with an intense desire to be a Good Man that one finds in really popular youth pastors. It’s a combination of qualities that is winning and should take him far in life.
But man, I cannot stand his most popular piece of writing. You’ve probably read it. It’s a blog post titled “Marriage Isn’t For You,” and in the last week it’s been linked in a million Facebook timelines, been featured on the Today show, and generally been applauded as a font of wisdom about what marriage should be.
Only: It’s not.
Behold Wedding Crunchers: A massive, juicy trove of information about the New York Times wedding section. Just plug in any keyword and 30 years worth of data about elite couples you love to hate will show up in graph form! Now you can finally quantify what you always suspected about the types of people who makes the cut. (You know, like people with absurd-sounding hyphenated names.) Below, some Philly graphs.
1. Proof that Philadelphia is quite unloved by the Times. In 2013, about 36 announcements contained the word “Philadelphia.” Boston got double. Washington got quadruple. And New York can go play with itself.
2. Penn dominates Drexel and Temple.
3. Nobody has ever used the word “Cheesesteak” in a Times wedding announcement.
The new issue of Philadelphia Wedding, about to hit newsstands this week, features a gorgeous four-page spread documenting the November 2012 nuptials of Maria Papadakis and Brendan Kent, who tied the knot in one of the most glamorous ceremonies Philadelphia has seen in a long time. But today, the newlyweds are headed for divorce. Read more »