Uh-Oh! Cheating Online Isn’t Safe Anymore



“I mean isn’t that why we are here, to be as discreet as possible?”

Those enticing words probably sound a little different today to the Brockton, Massachusetts, man who posted them on the marital-cheating website Ashley Madison than they did when he typed them. He’s the first AM user publicly outed by hackers who this week compromised the adulterous secret identities of 37,000,000 current and former users of the site.

Intrigued? Want to know more? Of course you do; this is the Internet. Boston’s WBZ-TV reports: “Among the data released about the Brockton client of Ashley Madison: His user ID is ‘Heavy73’; he listed himself as ‘married/attached’; he joined the site the day after Valentine’s Day, 2014; he likes ‘cuddling & hugging’ and is into ‘discretion & secrecy.’” Read more »

Lawmaker Who Wants a Stripper Registry Tells His Story

Rep. Matt Baker | Photo courtesy of Baker's office

Rep. Matt Baker | Photo courtesy of Baker’s office

State Rep. Matt Baker, a Republican who represents the county home to the “Grand Canyon of Pennsylvania,” wants to do something that is awfully Big Government.

He is proposing legislation that would require strippers and other workers in the adult entertainment industry to provide a boatload of information — their name, stage name, address, phone number, date of birth, place of birth, height, weight, hair color, eye color, criminal background information, trafficking status and photo ID — to a government registry. The bill would also bar alcohol from strip clubs and force customers and nude dancers to remain six feet apart at all times.

Baker, as well as a Christian group known as the Pennsylvania Family Institute that helped draft the legislation, claim that their goal is to prevent sex trafficking, a/k/a adults and children being coerced or forced into prostitution and other sex work against their will. How the heck would a state registry do that? Is this just a Trojan horse intended to put strip clubs out of business? And why on Earth, as the Philadelphia City Paper reported, did Baker not consult the strippers he purports to care about so deeply before introducing the bill?

We, like several dancers, the American Civil Liberties Union and advocates for sex workers, had a lot of questions. So we put them to Baker. He responded to all of them (well, except one) via email.
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Millennials More Likely to Look for Yoga Porn Than Prior Generations

Millennials are into this. No kidding. | Screenshot of "hot yoga" scenario from Pornhub.

Millennials are into this. No kidding. | Screenshot of “hot yoga” scenario from Pornhub.

Pornhub Insights, the research and analysis branch of the adult video purveyor Pornhub, teamed up with Mic and published an analysis of the habits of Pornhub’s millennial users — those between the ages 18 and 34. With 18.35 billion total visits and 78.9 billion videos viewed in 2014, Pornhub certainly has plenty of data to mine, and some of the generational differences are frankly shocking. (NSFW, obviously.)

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Relax, Everyone: Millennials Are Getting Laid Plenty

Two studies came out recently showing that — surprise! — millennials get laid less than their parents did.

My Baby Boomer colleague Sandy Hingston wrote that as soon as she heard the news, “I knew the kids would twist themselves into pretzels explaining to me how that’s a good thing. After all, we’re the ones who ruined the environment, razed the economy and stuck them all with a hundred grand in college debt, so how could anything that we did ever be good?” Read more »

An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Prostate Cancer Away

man in bed

A new study out of Harvard proves what horn dogs have been trying to tell us for years: orgasming doesn’t only feel good—it can make you live longer, too!

The study reveals that men who ejaculate more often during their lifetime—about 21 times a month—have a 22 percent lower risk of getting prostate cancer.

There’s some heft behind the results, too: There were 32,000 males in good health involved in the study over the course of 18 years, which makes it the largest scientific study to date on male ejaculation. To get the results, subjects chronicled and shared their monthly ejaculation practices—from masturbation to full-on sex—between the ages of 20 and 29, and 40 and 49.

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Gay Sex and the Philly City: It’s Not Me, It’s You

gay couple

I had a therapist about a year ago tell me, “You need to let your hair down when it comes to sex. You need to let loose”

I, quite frankly, took offense to that. I mean, I have been out since I was 16, and if the back seat of my first car (my late grandfather’s white clunker) could talk, well, I’d be labeled a big old whore. (God, the things that happened in the parking lot of the Best Buy store about 20 minutes from my parents’ house …) Yet, my therapist thought I needed to be more playful with the people I dated, or that I needed to show other guys that I could be a fun-loving sexual being.

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Is It Time for a “Yes Means Yes” Standard at Philly Colleges?

In this Wednesday, March 2, 2011 file photo, students at Dickinson College in Carlisle, Pa. march across the campus demanding the school deal more harshly with students who commit sexual offenses.  (AP Photo/The Sentinel, Jason Malmont)

In this Wednesday, March 2, 2011, file photo, students at Dickinson College in Carlisle, Pa. march across the campus demanding the school deal more harshly with students who commit sexual offenses. (AP Photo/The Sentinel, Jason Malmont)

A City Council committee will hear testimony this afternoon about how Philadelphia colleges and universities handle and investigate sexual assault complaints — and contemplate whether a “yes means yes” standard should be required for college students who have sex.

“There needs to be an honest, frank dialogue about how we ‘un-stack’ the deck against victims of sexual assault,” Councilwoman Blondell Reynolds Brown said in a written statement ahead of Friday’s hearing. “One in five women on college campuses will be the victim of sexual assault. More and more brave victims are coming forward, only to find out that their school does not have their back, or wants to sweep it under the rug.”  Read more »

Selfie Sex-Ed: Should High Schools Teach Sexting Risks?


According to a long-term study by researchers at the University of Texas, sexting may actually be a normal part of sexual development among teens.

As provocative as that sounds, I think it’s probably true. And — as exaggerated and semi-Puritan as this sounds — it’s also true that sexting can completely ruin a teenager’s life.

A girl who shares an intimate photo with her boyfriend can be charged with a summary offense in Pennsylvania. He can face charges for having the images, too.  Read more »

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FAMILY DINNER: From left to right: Jon, Josh, Tiffany, Phillip and Mae cooking up dinner at Phillip and Tiffany’s house in Bensalem. Photo | Gene Smirnov

FAMILY DINNER: From left to right: Jon, Josh, Tiffany, Phillip and Mae cooking up dinner at Phillip and Tiffany’s house in Bensalem. Photo | Gene Smirnov

Tiffany Adams is running late.

I saw that coming even before she texted me at 4:19 p.m., 11 minutes ahead of our arranged meeting at a coffee shop on Sydenham Street: “Hey I’m running a little late but I’m on my way!” First, she’s driving in from Bensalem, and it’s almost rush hour. Second, in our limited interactions leading up to today, she’s given off a distinctly unhurried vibe — not a lack of punctuality, but a casualness about time itself, as though her presence in this dimension is strictly voluntary. Also, she has six boyfriends, give or take a few, which is already stretching the limits of temporality.
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