I had a therapist about a year ago tell me, “You need to let your hair down when it comes to sex. You need to let loose”
I, quite frankly, took offense to that. I mean, I have been out since I was 16, and if the back seat of my first car (my late grandfather’s white clunker) could talk, well, I’d be labeled a big old whore. (God, the things that happened in the parking lot of the Best Buy store about 20 minutes from my parents’ house …) Yet, my therapist thought I needed to be more playful with the people I dated, or that I needed to show other guys that I could be a fun-loving sexual being.
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In this Wednesday, March 2, 2011, file photo, students at Dickinson College in Carlisle, Pa. march across the campus demanding the school deal more harshly with students who commit sexual offenses. (AP Photo/The Sentinel, Jason Malmont)
A City Council committee will hear testimony this afternoon about how Philadelphia colleges and universities handle and investigate sexual assault complaints — and contemplate whether a “yes means yes” standard should be required for college students who have sex.
“There needs to be an honest, frank dialogue about how we ‘un-stack’ the deck against victims of sexual assault,” Councilwoman Blondell Reynolds Brown said in a written statement ahead of Friday’s hearing. “One in five women on college campuses will be the victim of sexual assault. More and more brave victims are coming forward, only to find out that their school does not have their back, or wants to sweep it under the rug.” Read more »
According to a long-term study by researchers at the University of Texas, sexting may actually be a normal part of sexual development among teens.
As provocative as that sounds, I think it’s probably true. And — as exaggerated and semi-Puritan as this sounds — it’s also true that sexting can completely ruin a teenager’s life.
A girl who shares an intimate photo with her boyfriend can be charged with a summary offense in Pennsylvania. He can face charges for having the images, too. Read more »
FAMILY DINNER: From left to right: Jon, Josh, Tiffany, Phillip and Mae cooking up dinner at Phillip and Tiffany’s house in Bensalem. Photo | Gene Smirnov
Tiffany Adams is running late.
I saw that coming even before she texted me at 4:19 p.m., 11 minutes ahead of our arranged meeting at a coffee shop on Sydenham Street: “Hey I’m running a little late but I’m on my way!” First, she’s driving in from Bensalem, and it’s almost rush hour. Second, in our limited interactions leading up to today, she’s given off a distinctly unhurried vibe — not a lack of punctuality, but a casualness about time itself, as though her presence in this dimension is strictly voluntary. Also, she has six boyfriends, give or take a few, which is already stretching the limits of temporality.
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Two employees of the Philadelphia Fire Department have accepted punishment for their roles in a departmental sex scandal, NBC 10 reports.
The two were part of a group of seven members of the department — including two battalion chiefs, a captain, a lieutenant, two firefighters and a paramedic — scheduled to face disciplinary hearings this week. The pair waived their right to a hearing; what punishment they face is still unknown. Read more »
I won’t be standing in line to see the premiere of the movie version of Fifty Shades of Grey on Friday. Nor will I be queuing up to see it with a bunch of my best girlfriends on Saturday, Valentine’s Day. My husband isn’t taking me to a screening for a date night. But apparently a lot of other people are doing all of these things, since advance ticket sales for the movie have surpassed those for any other R-rated feature ever.
In New York City, Lyss Stern is going to the movie with 50 of her friends. This is about 10 times as many friends as I have, let alone friends I could corral into seeing Fifty Shades with me. I blush if I watch sex scenes in movies when I’m sitting in my own living room with my husband. I can’t fathom sitting in a darkened movie theater surrounded by besties while a woman willingly gets tied up and whipped on-screen.
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“Invisible Boyfriend gives you real-world and social proof that you’re in a relationship—even if you’re not—so you can get back to living life on your own terms.”
So claims the creators of Invisible Boyfriend, a digital subscription service that helps potential single gay men “create credible, reasonable stories that you can bring home to curious mom, your buddies, and coworkers. These stories are backed by virtual and real-world social proof.” (Sorry, but I’m LOL’ing over the phrase real world social proof). Read more »
Kink University (KU), a site that seeks to “improve the world’s accessibility [to kink] through learning fun, safe, and effective skills related to consensual kink and other aspects of sensuality,” just released a list of the nation’s kinkiest cities, and Philly cracks the top 10 at No. 9.
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It’s like you walked into the Paper Source store on Walnut Street, purchased every fine sheet of paper on display, whipped out your hot glue gun and scissors, and turned it all into animals with giant penises and vaginas. Read more »
Last week, The Huffington Post published a commentary by a 19-year-old female, Brie, titled “I’m Demisexual: Here’s What That Means.” In it, the writer describes demisexuality:
“I don’t feel sexually attracted to people in the ‘normal’ way. I’m demisexual (that’s on the asexuality scale), so I honestly can’t feel attraction toward people unless I already love their personalities and minds along with a few other special snowflake qualities.”
Of course, I couldn’t help but notice a good amount of my gay-identifying social media friends sharing the article, mostly poking fun at the author’s “need” to label herself as a sexual orientation that was, in their opinions, “fictitious.” As one person put it, “We’re going to run out of letters of the alphabet to describe people soon. What’s it now? LGBTQD?”
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