Every week, Philly gay gents share their local picks for Man Crush Monday. Today, former G Philly contributor and author of Gay on a Budget, a “style blog perfect for non-elite, messes who like to think outside the traditional style box.”
My name is Jayson Flores. I’m a Philly kid, born and raised, currently living in Olney. As a recent college graduate I spend my days riding the struggle bus through life, trying to find where I’m meant to be, and crying myself to sleep over looming loan repayment. In the meantime, or perhaps more accurately, for fun, I like to work on my style blog, Gay on a Budget. It’s a style blog perfect for non-elite, messes who like to think outside the traditional style box. It’s this same out-of-the-box thinking that guides my local man crushes.
I swear it’s not his muscles that make me swoon (though, they don't hurt). What’s most attractive about Gunnar is that he’s so dedicated to his work. He doesn’t just stand around looking cute. Alongside the dreamworthy selfies on his Instagram are videos and images of him crafting and practicing for his performances and shows. Passion and dedication are very sexy to me. Unfortunately, I have yet to actually meet him in person, but someday we’ll meet and I’ll think about how awkward it is that I’ve written about how hot he is for G Philly countless times.
I’ve only met Robert once, and it was only for a short time—on the Independence Business Alliance’s 2nd annual IBA Sails with Pride. I remember thinking I might be the cutest on the boat, then he was literally the second person I saw, and I was like nevermind! Long story short, he’s super cute, super sweet, and he worked with MANNA, an organization that I love and respect so much.
If you don’t know who he is, you need to. What I love most about Conrad is that he totally has the skills and portfolio to brag, but he is so humble and kind. Like, if Rihanna buys one of your photos you are more than entitled to be the bougiest queen around for a good minute. But instead of bragging, he spends his time capturing and sharing some of the best art this city has to offer, the kind that’s outside the museums (my favorite kind). I’d love to tag along on one of his photo shoots one day and see how he works, because I am a style blogger with zero camera skills.
The first time I saw Rudy was at 2013 Pride. He was on the mic, MCing the area of the parade near the Liberty Bell. He had me, and my friends, gagged the entire time. I am a sucker for funny guys, and Rudy is not just funny— he's a master on the mic. Plus, I deeply admire and respect his work with performance and gender. It also doesn’t hurt that he has a really nice fanny.
Ian Michael Crumm
This boy has the indescribable “it factor” that separates the dreamers from those who succeed. This Philly style blogger has definitely made a name for himself in the fashion world, and made a fan out of me the moment I met him. He’s hard working, dedicated, and most importantly friendly. He’s undoubtedly an inspiring individual, as he shows that not all style bloggers (or stylish people in general) come from New York or L.A.
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On Saturday night, the William Way Community Center hosted its annual, oh-so-stylish fundraiser Indigo Ball at the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts (PAFA). As always, it brought out Philly’s best-dressed LGBTers for a night of dancing, cocktailing and mingling. Philly photographer Sammy Munsch was in the house, and she was kind enough to share some of her best shots from the evening.
William Way Executive Director Christopher Bartlett and Philly AIDS Thrift and Giovanni's Room manager Christina Kallas-Saritsoglou.
Meg Rider and partner Natalie Hope McDonald.
Rudy Flesher (center) and Lascivious Jane (right) with friend.
Megan MacTurk, Kelly Burkhardt, Rada Yovovich, Dileimys Franco, Mary Pitek, Amber Hikes, Kaitlin Apostol
Steve Cisowski (far left) and Bill Chenevert (second from left) with friends.
Rue Landau and wife (left) with Elicia Gonzales and finacé Megan Hannah.
Garrett Olthuis and Sara Kelly
Kate Hinchey, Philadelphia Gay News publisher Mark Segal, Jason Goodman
Carrie Jacobs (speaking) and staff members from The Attic Youth Center
Judge Dan Anders (far left) Judge Ann Butchart, John Dougherty, guest, and Rue Landau
Yesterday, GLAAD hosted a nationwide campaign called #SpiritDay, where it asked people to “go purple” as way to stand up against bullying and to show support for LGBT youth. Millions took part, including a nice spattering of folks right here in Philly. Locally, we had everyone from politicians to community leaders to entire kickball teams donning purple for the cause. I round up some of the ones who crossed my radar below:
GALAEI's Elicia Gonzales looks great in purple, but then again what doesn't she look great in?
@jerseyboydallas's #SpiritDay proclamation came with a message: "I've been bullied since grade school, because my voice was not deep like the other guys in my class, and I was called all sorts of names. But today I stand up to those bullies to say I'm different. We are not all the same, so there is no need for all this. It's immature so grow up!!!"
GALAEI's @thefeverview is repping all kinds of causes: #SpiritDay, transgender issues, and the freedom to wear beanies!
@njrugger45 wore purple for #SpiritDay and Domestic Violence Awareness Month. "I think both observances invite us to ask what experiences of trauma, violence, and/or oppression we can work to heal from so that we do not reenact that violence upon ourselves, our families, and our communities."
"It's always spirit day on the purple team." (Photo by @jabaiocco01)
I don't think this was intentional, but @thatjimkid got his hair died purple on #SpiritDay. And he's rockin' it.
Awww. How could bullying exist in a world with cute puppies like this? (Photo by @edwardbenner)
Every hump day, a Philly woman (or man) shares her local picks for Woman Crush Wednesday. Today, co-president of the Spruce Foundation, activist, entertainer and mainstay on our Man Crush Monday column Rudy Flesher.
My name is Rudy, and these are my picks for Woman Crush Wednesday.
When she's not empowering youth at The Attic Youth Center she's kicking ass and taking names for Girls Justice League. Does it hurt that she's a total babe and has a dog that looks like an Ewok extra from Return of the Jedi? No, no it does not.
I met her as one third of Screw Smart, but she's a fierce lady in her own right, as well. She has a honking laugh that can cheer the despondent and wake the dead, and a smile that beams pure joy across a city block. One day I will win her heart by getting in good with a curator at the Mütter Museum and taking on her a behind-the-scenes tour of rare dental disease specimens. So weird, so Philadelphia, so her!
Some queens have drag mothers, but I'm genderfuck royalty and I have a Glitter Mama. Maybe that makes this all a bit Freudian, but she makes my list! Without her I would have never shaken in Philly, shimmied in New York, or done a spoken-word burlesque striptease and prayer in Cambridge. True story! Whenever she's on stage, you should be in the audience!
My first memory of Ms. Lobstar Bisque is her pulling me aside at a bumping Stimulus party to sing a soaring opera aria right into my ear as though it were a private concert. Whether she's singing with the Anna Crusis Women's Choir or working a burlesque stage, she brings talent, joy, and a hell of a set of pipes to every stage she graces.
I don't know if I want to read Ashley's tarot, date her, or rein reincarnate as her in another life. It's no secret that if I rang in at a zero on the Kinsey scale I'd be a boob man, but the first thing I noticed about Ashley was her hair styled in a retro victory roll and pinned with a stylish fascinator. She's an award-winning bartender for a reason—you can't walk away from her bar without a warm heart and a big smile!
What can be said about Amber that hasn't already been written in sonnets, and Woman Crush Wednesdays of yore? Among the very best things about my tenure as a Board member at William Way has been the opportunity to become friends with Amber, not to mention us discussing our mutual crush on Pennsylvania history-maker and former Board colleague Judge Ann Butchart. Our mutual love for brilliant, trail-blazing women in smart suits keeps us close. (Hillary 2016!)
Mistor Fahrenheit and Lili St. Queer
I don't have any drag daughters—we can probably all agree that one The Notorious OMG was enough for the Gayborhood. However, both of these brilliant performers gave their first show on my stage, and that is one of the proudest points of my cabaret career. The only thing cuter than them as individuals is them as a couple and I cannot wait to toast their marriage.
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Every week, Philly gay gents share their local picks for Man Crush Monday. This week, Grant Shea. Mr. Shea works for the City of Philadelphia as an emergency planner. He is also a volunteer with the Delaware Valley Legacy Fund (DVLF.)
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There’s an old adage — you know the one — that says “clothes make the man,” and trans clothing designer Saint Harridan here to making the saying true for women and FTM transgender people, too. This innovative company began with the mission of designing clothes that, “fit your body and your gender.”
Shoppers can buy Saint Harridan’s suits and accessories online at any time, but those looking for a more personal shopping experience can head to its three-day pop-up shop in Philly, starting Friday at the Hampton Inn.
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