First it was the women of Penn in the New York Times, explaining that college’s hookup culture is really great because they don’t have time to search out meaningful relationships at this point in their lives because they’re way too busy building their résumés, even though they have to drink to have sex with the guys they’re having sex with because if they were straight they’d never have meaningless sex with guys they don’t even like.
Then last week it was the ladies of Princeton, who, perhaps in an attempt to interfere with sales of “Princeton Mom” Susan Patton’s prospective advice book, are flocking in droves to join the infamous Tiger Inn, the “frattiest and hardest-drinking of Princeeton-University’s 11 eating clubs,” according to this piece in the Atlantic by Princeton student Caroline Kitchener.
Initiation to Tiger Inn includes such co-ed fun as swallowing live goldfish and having dog food crammed into your mouth, Kitchener says, and none of the hundreds of comments on her piece dispute that. Instead, much like the comments on the New York Times piece (except for the ones by whiny Penn women saying the author of the piece got it all wrong), they say, either approvingly or disapprovingly, that these are the logical fruits of feminism. Which is bull.
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Have you ever had this scenario happen? You’re out on a Saturday night with your husband and two other married couples for a relaxing dinner. But instead of digesting your food and fine wine, you’re ready to upchuck because one of your fellow couples can’t keep their hands off each other. Every time a partner leaves for the bathroom or to say hello to someone they know at another table, a make-out session erupts upon their return. During the meal, hands are wandering to places that other people need not see. Read more »
Sex on local college campuses sure is getting complicated. First a bunch of women at Swarthmore College decided administrators there weren’t taking sexual assaults on their campus seriously enough, so they filed a Title IX complaint against them, followed shortly by a second complaint. Then lightning wiped out Swarthmore’s Women’s Resource Center. Then this weekend, we find out the New York Times spent a year hounding women at the University of Pennsylvania and determined definitively that said women are absolutely not sure about this whole get-drunk-and-hook-up-with-guys-you-can’t-stand-when-you’re-sober thing. (In case you can’t tell the players without a scorecard, this piece I wrote a couple years back outlines the forces that have aligned to create the Title IX violation college-campus frenzy, including an incredibly zealous (I’m being polite there) Main Line attorney who’s making a fortune off the whole to-do.) Read more »
Now that summer is here, so is wedding season. For all of you singles out there: Don’t fret. Weddings are one of the best places to meet people. Unattached women at nuptials usually have their relationship future on the brain. This vibe creates perfect timing for single guys to make their entrances. (Yes, men as well as women want that special someone to make them as happy as the wedding couple.) If you have been invited to a wedding and are unescorted, don’t despair, keep reading and chances are that you will be leaving the wedding with at least a phone number.
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Money may not buy you love, but can it buy you stability? The fact is that the number one thing that married couples fight about is money—and it’s reported that 30 percent of married couples who fight about money will end up getting a divorce. Tacky as it may sound, when picking your future spouse, it’s best to find out about their finances early on. So how does one bring up money, or even just assess if the person that you desire is indeed financially compatible with you?
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The new issue of Philadelphia Wedding, about to hit newsstands this week, features a gorgeous four-page spread documenting the November 2012 nuptials of Maria Papadakis and Brendan Kent, who tied the knot in one of the most glamorous ceremonies Philadelphia has seen in a long time. But today, the newlyweds are headed for divorce. Read more »
So over the weekend, Kim Kardashian had herself a baby. Kim tweeted that her as-yet-unnamed child is a “miracle,” which of course she is, because all babies are miracles. The baby’s daddy, Kanye West, delivered an album, Yeezus, which he recorded in France while Kim was stateside, waxing large with child and finalizing the finale to her two-and-a-half-month marriage to basketball player Kris Humphries.
I wish the new parents all the best. But I’ve got my fingers crossed for that little girl. Read more »
I thought I had more time.
I turned 30 in January, but I did not fret about being single. Let’s be clear: Thirty is old, an age that seemed impossibly far away as a teenager, or even when I was 25. But who cares? I invited all my friends to a bar, we counted down to midnight, and I felt happier than I’d ever been. Thirty-year-old Dan McQuade is my least insufferable version yet. I was content.
Then things fell apart.
I should have seen the warning signs. I had a few bad dates in a row. My grandmother asked me when I was going to get a girlfriend. (I was dating someone the last time I saw her!) I sent a saved email draft I shouldn’t have sent to an ex. Societal double standards should keep me from feeling worried about being alone, but cracks appeared. Read more »
Since both men and women are waiting longer to get married, it’s become harder to find people using traditional methods such as marrying your high school or college sweetheart. Once out in the world and working full time, opportunities for meeting people begin to diminish. Between the responsibilities of work and the reality of your friends getting married and having their own kids, meeting and greeting people in the dating world has become more difficult. With the realities of dating in the new millennium, online dating sites happen to be one of the best ways to get to know new people. A recent study shows that one third of Americans now meet their spouses through online dating sites, and that the number of people using these sites has increased dramatically over the last decade. Fifty million people in the U.S. use some form of online dating; 40 million stay on the dating sites for an extended period of time. With this latest trend in mind, here are some guidelines for writing an online dating profile that will really help you stand out in the crowd.
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