Money may not buy you love, but can it buy you stability? The fact is that the number one thing that married couples fight about is money—and it’s reported that 30 percent of married couples who fight about money will end up getting a divorce. Tacky as it may sound, when picking your future spouse, it’s best to find out about their finances early on. So how does one bring up money, or even just assess if the person that you desire is indeed financially compatible with you?
The new issue of Philadelphia Wedding, about to hit newsstands this week, features a gorgeous four-page spread documenting the November 2012 nuptials of Maria Papadakis and Brendan Kent, who tied the knot in one of the most glamorous ceremonies Philadelphia has seen in a long time. But today, the newlyweds are headed for divorce. Read more »
So over the weekend, Kim Kardashian had herself a baby. Kim tweeted that her as-yet-unnamed child is a “miracle,” which of course she is, because all babies are miracles. The baby’s daddy, Kanye West, delivered an album, Yeezus, which he recorded in France while Kim was stateside, waxing large with child and finalizing the finale to her two-and-a-half-month marriage to basketball player Kris Humphries.
I wish the new parents all the best. But I’ve got my fingers crossed for that little girl. Read more »
I thought I had more time.
I turned 30 in January, but I did not fret about being single. Let’s be clear: Thirty is old, an age that seemed impossibly far away as a teenager, or even when I was 25. But who cares? I invited all my friends to a bar, we counted down to midnight, and I felt happier than I’d ever been. Thirty-year-old Dan McQuade is my least insufferable version yet. I was content.
Then things fell apart.
I should have seen the warning signs. I had a few bad dates in a row. My grandmother asked me when I was going to get a girlfriend. (I was dating someone the last time I saw her!) I sent a saved email draft I shouldn’t have sent to an ex. Societal double standards should keep me from feeling worried about being alone, but cracks appeared. Read more »
Since both men and women are waiting longer to get married, it’s become harder to find people using traditional methods such as marrying your high school or college sweetheart. Once out in the world and working full time, opportunities for meeting people begin to diminish. Between the responsibilities of work and the reality of your friends getting married and having their own kids, meeting and greeting people in the dating world has become more difficult. With the realities of dating in the new millennium, online dating sites happen to be one of the best ways to get to know new people. A recent study shows that one third of Americans now meet their spouses through online dating sites, and that the number of people using these sites has increased dramatically over the last decade. Fifty million people in the U.S. use some form of online dating; 40 million stay on the dating sites for an extended period of time. With this latest trend in mind, here are some guidelines for writing an online dating profile that will really help you stand out in the crowd.
Living together is a steadily growing trend that is now the norm for 60 percent of today’s unmarried couples. Cohabitation no longer carries the stigma that it did in years past: In the 1960s, only 10 percent of couples reported living together pre-marriage. Research shows that one out of four women will live with a man by age 20 and three out of four women will live with a man by age 30. As far as divorce rates go, couples who live together but are committed in terms of an engagement and future wedding date have a higher chance of staying married as opposed to those who live together uncommitted prior to getting married.
So how does one decide whether to take this step or not with their significant other?
When we think of steakhouses, we imagine expensive food, lush booths and men in business suits. But it turns out these restaurants are not just for customers who want fine dining but are a favorite place to take your mistress.
Fifty percent of first marriages end in divorce. The average length of a first marriage is eight years, with the average age of those who are getting married landing at 30, prime child bearing years. One would think that second or third marriages would show better stats, as men and women would learn from their mistakes. But that’s NOT true. Sixty percent of second marriages and 73 percent of third marriages will end in divorce. And so a challenge for many couples embarking on getting remarried is how to successfully meld each of their children into the mix.
In light of the vociferous and ongoing debate surrounding gay marriage, it’s easy to imagine that self-described “marriage traditionalists” rose up organically in opposition to expanding the definition of marriage to include spouses of the same sex. However, you’d be wrong to think that. The marriage movement—which now claims, erroneously, that the incursion of gays and lesbians into its hallowed halls will weaken the institution—actually began as a response to a real threat to the contract of matrimony: the no-fault divorce. Read more »
As we get ready for the warmer months by cleaning out our closets, and happily discarding those horrid cargo pants, we need to also use the same critical eye when assessing our relationships. Staying with the same person can be your go-to move because it’s scary to look for someone new. What if you’re alone for a while or you never fall in love again? Is it worth staying in a rut?