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FAMILY DINNER: From left to right: Jon, Josh, Tiffany, Phillip and Mae cooking up dinner at Phillip and Tiffany’s house in Bensalem. Photo | Gene Smirnov

FAMILY DINNER: From left to right: Jon, Josh, Tiffany, Phillip and Mae cooking up dinner at Phillip and Tiffany’s house in Bensalem. Photo | Gene Smirnov

Tiffany Adams is running late.

I saw that coming even before she texted me at 4:19 p.m., 11 minutes ahead of our arranged meeting at a coffee shop on Sydenham Street: “Hey I’m running a little late but I’m on my way!” First, she’s driving in from Bensalem, and it’s almost rush hour. Second, in our limited interactions leading up to today, she’s given off a distinctly unhurried vibe — not a lack of punctuality, but a casualness about time itself, as though her presence in this dimension is strictly voluntary. Also, she has six boyfriends, give or take a few, which is already stretching the limits of temporality.
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9 Philly Missed Connections That Need to Happen This Valentine’s Day


It’s not easy to find love — especially in Philadelphia, especially in February.

But it’s not like we’re not trying. No, we’re trying really hard — from the Whole Foods check-out line to the Market-Frankford El — to make contact with fellow humans. Some of us just aren’t very good at it.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’re nudging along some of the cuter Missed Connections posted on Craigslist during the past two weeks. You guys deserve to be happy, if only just for one fake holiday. (As for the gross guys trying to pick up Kelly Drive joggers? Ya’ll are on your own – and stop that right now.)

Recognize yourself? Get in touch! Don’t, but like what you’re reading? These people are looking for love on Craigslist — they’ll probably give you a chance.

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Invisible Boyfriend: Order A Fake Boyfriend For When The Real Thing Is Just Too Much

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Invisible Boyfriend gives you real-world and social proof that you’re in a relationship—even if you’re not—so you can get back to living life on your own terms.”

So claims the creators of Invisible Boyfriend, a digital subscription service that helps potential single gay men “create credible, reasonable stories that you can bring home to curious mom, your buddies, and coworkers. These stories are backed by virtual and real-world social proof.” (Sorry, but I’m LOL’ing over the phrase real world social proof). Read more »

Man Crush Monday: Kevin Gallagher

Every week, Philly gay gents share their local picks for Man Crush Monday. This week, Kevin Gallagher, an HIV linkage coordinator at Drexel University College of Medicine.


Last Five Man Crush Mondays: 

Five Observations About Trying to Find a Date on the Internet in 2014


When I was in my 20s, and stinging after a break-up, I would sometimes place a personal ad on Craigslist. I did so half seriously, half on a lark — I know a couple who met on Craigslist and who are now happily married with two children. So why not?

The answers were often entertaining, and sometimes random: once an ex-boyfriend replied (no, you’re really not a nice guy). And I actually met two men there: One was a former Navy Seal who occupied my time for a summer; the other was an environmentalist who showed up in a pleather duster and talked in a way that made me consider shimmying out of the bar’s bathroom window.

I find myself on the single side of things again, and even though I’ve vowed to not date until April, I placed an ad in Philadelphia and South Jersey anyway, just to see what would come of it.

In two weeks, I got about 60 responses (some of them were doubles, obviously guys sending the same response to anyone who posted). I noticed five things in those 60 replies. What I’ve quoted here has not been altered, except to redact the names of the not necessarily innocent.

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HEADS UP: The Happy Healthy Lesbian Online Conference Starts Next Week

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Happy Healthy Lesbian founder Amy McDonald (top right, surrounded by rainbows) and the array of speakers in her upcoming weeklong telesummit for queer women.

Your 2014 resolution to become the best lesbian you can be just became a little more attainable. Next week the Happy Healthy Lesbian Telesummit kicks off with an informative, online women’s wellness conference. The gathering features five days worth of empowering, lesbian-centric discussions on everything from staying in shape to traveling to keeping things nice and steamy in the bedroom.

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Study Finds That Gay Couples are Happier Than Straight Couples

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I guess we’re called “gay” for a reason. A new survey of 5,000 adults in the U.K found that childless gay couples have happier relationships than their hetero counterparts, and that they tend to view simpler things as more romantic and cherish-able — like their partner bringing them a cup of tea in the morning, or watching TV together.

Ironically, though, gay couples are less likely to show affection toward one another in public. “Many LGBQ couples, especially the younger ones, say they would not hold hands in public for fear of reprisal.” says report co-author Dr Jacqui Gibb.

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As You Make Your 2014 Resolutions, Ask Yourself This: Are Your Friends Good People?

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Photo | Shutterstock.com

As the New Year approaches, we are all thinking about the 2014 resolutions we ought to be making to better our lives and allow for a more harmonious year. These declarations usually include spending money more wisely, treating people in a thoughtful way, losing weight and being more productive. Rarely does one think of the company one keeps as having a direct correlation with happiness. But who you choose to surround yourself with will have a profound effect on your self esteem, and on how others view you. Consider the following scenarios when choosing whom to spend your time with in 2014.

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7 Reasons Middle-Aged Women Need to Get Off Facebook



Women make up 64 percent of Facebook’s more than 500 million members, half of whom are reported to log into their account daily. Although the majority of women on Facebook are said to be under 40, there is a fair representation of middle-aged-and-beyond female users who enjoy the site. Within this age group, there are those who feel the need to post, tag and pontificate regularly. The appeal for them is that there now exists a platform to express their dormant inner “adolescent girl.” Social networking to some women has become more of a pubescent pastime then it is even to the tweens.

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