Five Observations About Trying to Find a Date on the Internet in 2014

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When I was in my 20s, and stinging after a break-up, I would sometimes place a personal ad on Craigslist. I did so half seriously, half on a lark — I know a couple who met on Craigslist and who are now happily married with two children. So why not?

The answers were often entertaining, and sometimes random: once an ex-boyfriend replied (no, you’re really not a nice guy). And I actually met two men there: One was a former Navy Seal who occupied my time for a summer; the other was an environmentalist who showed up in a pleather duster and talked in a way that made me consider shimmying out of the bar’s bathroom window.

I find myself on the single side of things again, and even though I’ve vowed to not date until April, I placed an ad in Philadelphia and South Jersey anyway, just to see what would come of it.

In two weeks, I got about 60 responses (some of them were doubles, obviously guys sending the same response to anyone who posted). I noticed five things in those 60 replies. What I’ve quoted here has not been altered, except to redact the names of the not necessarily innocent.

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HEADS UP: The Happy Healthy Lesbian Online Conference Starts Next Week

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Happy Healthy Lesbian founder Amy McDonald (top right, surrounded by rainbows) and the array of speakers in her upcoming weeklong telesummit for queer women.

Your 2014 resolution to become the best lesbian you can be just became a little more attainable. Next week the Happy Healthy Lesbian Telesummit kicks off with an informative, online women’s wellness conference. The gathering features five days worth of empowering, lesbian-centric discussions on everything from staying in shape to traveling to keeping things nice and steamy in the bedroom.

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Study Finds That Gay Couples are Happier Than Straight Couples

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I guess we’re called “gay” for a reason. A new survey of 5,000 adults in the U.K found that childless gay couples have happier relationships than their hetero counterparts, and that they tend to view simpler things as more romantic and cherish-able — like their partner bringing them a cup of tea in the morning, or watching TV together.

Ironically, though, gay couples are less likely to show affection toward one another in public. “Many LGBQ couples, especially the younger ones, say they would not hold hands in public for fear of reprisal.” says report co-author Dr Jacqui Gibb.

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As You Make Your 2014 Resolutions, Ask Yourself This: Are Your Friends Good People?

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As the New Year approaches, we are all thinking about the 2014 resolutions we ought to be making to better our lives and allow for a more harmonious year. These declarations usually include spending money more wisely, treating people in a thoughtful way, losing weight and being more productive. Rarely does one think of the company one keeps as having a direct correlation with happiness. But who you choose to surround yourself with will have a profound effect on your self esteem, and on how others view you. Consider the following scenarios when choosing whom to spend your time with in 2014.

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7 Reasons Middle-Aged Women Need to Get Off Facebook

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Women make up 64 percent of Facebook’s more than 500 million members, half of whom are reported to log into their account daily. Although the majority of women on Facebook are said to be under 40, there is a fair representation of middle-aged-and-beyond female users who enjoy the site. Within this age group, there are those who feel the need to post, tag and pontificate regularly. The appeal for them is that there now exists a platform to express their dormant inner “adolescent girl.” Social networking to some women has become more of a pubescent pastime then it is even to the tweens.

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9 Easy Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

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With the divorce rates still hovering over fifty percent, couples are understandably wondering how to stay the course and beat the odds. Since length of courtship and even living together do not improve your odds of long-lasting marriage, what does it takes to stay together?

It is a well-known fact that the No. 1 reason couples fight is money, with kids and extended family a close second. There are plenty of reasons  couples disagree and consequently split up, but the big question is “What can couples do to get along better and ensure a happy forever after?” Here are some words of wisdom to live by:

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Jersey Court Orders Sesame Street’s Gordon to Pay Palimony

NBC 10 reports:

A judge in New Jersey has ordered Roscoe Orman, who plays Gordon on the children’s TV show, to continue paying palimony to the mother of his four children even though the unmarried former couple never agreed to anything in writing.

The 71-year-old broke up with 61-year-old Sharon Joiner-Orman in 2010 after 39 years together and married another woman in 2012.

The judge found that Orman did not deny the agreement and acknowledged the obligation by deeds and words.

A hearing is set for next week to determine how much Orman owes.

Does that make you sad? This should finish you off:

 

Five Ways Dating is Different Now for Women in Their 50s

Listen up ladies: 50 is the new perfect milestone in the dating world, and the men want you. The fact is that in 2013, middle-aged women just don’t look like they did 30-plus years ago: dowdy, housebound and watching soap operas. These women are worldly, and have degrees that they actually use, while looking young and fabulous.
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Ivy League Girls Gone Wild!

First it was the women of Penn in the New York Times, explaining that college’s hookup culture is really great because they don’t have time to search out meaningful relationships at this point in their lives because they’re way too busy building their résumés, even though they have to drink to have sex with the guys they’re having sex with because if they were straight they’d never have meaningless sex with guys they don’t even like.

Then last week it was the ladies of Princeton, who, perhaps in an attempt to interfere with sales of “Princeton Mom” Susan Patton’s prospective advice book, are flocking in droves to join the infamous Tiger Inn, the “frattiest and hardest-drinking of Princeeton-University’s 11 eating clubs,” according to this piece in the Atlantic by Princeton student Caroline Kitchener.

Initiation to Tiger Inn includes such co-ed fun as swallowing live goldfish and having dog food crammed into your mouth, Kitchener says, and none of the hundreds of comments on her piece dispute that. Instead, much like the comments on the New York Times piece (except for the ones by whiny Penn women saying the author of the piece got it all wrong), they say, either approvingly or disapprovingly, that these are the logical fruits of feminism. Which is bull.
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