• Strava and Runner’s World teamed up to figure out where folks log the most miles in 20 big cities in the US. Any ideas for Philly? Fine, fine, we’ll tell you (though you probably could’ve guessed): The two most popular Philly running spots are — can I get a drumroll? — the Ben Franklin Bridge and the Schuylkill River Trail. [Runner’s World]
I came to the practice of Orgasmic Meditation nine years ago via a circuitous 20-year route of other practices: yoga, seated meditation, bodywork. I haven’t found a more powerful catalyst for really effecting change in my life than OM.
Orgasm, the way I know it, is indirect, unpredictable, expansive, inclusive. It’s a state rather than an event. What the rest of the world calls “orgasm,” we call “climax”: part of orgasm, but far from the whole story. If the climax is the cymbal crash in a symphony, we’re looking at the whole symphony. We learn to up our attention to the more subtle stuff; the low oboe line is just as interesting and relevant.
OM is a 15-minute partnered practice in which a stroker strokes the upper-left quadrant of a woman’s clitoris with no goal except to feel what arises. The stroker is fully clothed, and the strokee is undressed from the waist down. It’s a strict 15 minutes — we set a timer. Part of the beauty of the practice is that it’s so self-contained; I know exactly what’s going to happen in those 15 minutes. The protocol of the practice is quite rigid. This isn’t a professional service, like getting a haircut or a massage. Rather, it’s a community of folks who practice, meaning they’re co-creating an experience. The whole notion of giver and receiver falls away. It’s more like jazz. The bassist isn’t giving Miles Davis a bass line. Rather, they’re both just responding in pitch-perfect resonance to the thing that’s between them.
Both stroker and strokee train in this practice — private training is three sessions to get started. (My intro package is $450, for about three to four hours of instruction.) After training, all practice sessions are free. Once you’re trained, you’re added to a private community page or forum, and that’s where you find partners for your practice. There are probably about 500 or so folks who have learned to OM in Philly. It’s not like a dating app, either. I OM with people I would never date, and I’ve had amazing experiences with partners I don’t know socially. All genders train and practice — of course, you need a minimum of one clitoris to practice. Usually it’s done in somebody’s home; just like you’d have a friend over for tea, you have a friend over for an OM.
We look at orgasm as a flow state, something bigger that overtakes you. It’s so different from other sexuality practices out there. It’s not “15 tricks to blow her mind tonight!” It’s more similar to the Slow Food movement, which took all the crap out of our food so that we can learn to truly taste how, say, an apple tastes. This is learning to feel again.
I expected OM to change my romantic relationship, and it did — it improved our communication, and we became more honest with each other. But I was blown away by the impact it had on my other relationships. The range of people I enjoy has expanded infinitely. I have more empathy and better boundaries, and I’ve learned to ask for and receive what I want more fully. Practicing that, day in and day out, with the most sensitive part of my body has made it so much more available when my pants go on and I’m out in the world. I’m nine years into this practice, and the only things I know for sure are that I’ve never had the same experience twice in an OM, and I’ll never feel all of my orgasm. And that’s the beauty of it: This terrain is infinite.
For many, this past November 9th was filled with a LOT of questions, starting with “WTF?” and “Holy crap, what are we going to doooo?” A few months later, a good chunk of us can probably say we’re still saying “WTF” on a daily basis — in my case, often in response to upsetting headlines filling my Facebook Newsfeed — but have yet to do much to try to make change in a world that seems to need a whole lot of fixing.
And maybe it’s just that: The world needs SO much fixing — where are we supposed to start? That’s where Meditate Your Action, a local group founded this December by Philly yoga teachers Katy Kopnitsky and Emily Tara Sabalbaro, comes in.
Free People’s third annual FP Let’s Move event tour is landing in Philadelphia next Monday, January 16th. And considering the yoga/meditation/food event is only making its way to seven cities across the world, this is pretty sweet news.
• Shameful confession: I only know what ghee is because, earlier this year, Kourtney Kardashian revealed that she drinks it every morning. (Yes, she drinks it.) If you don’t follow Kourtney Kardashian’s every move, ghee is a clarified butter — and it might be worth swapping your usual butter for, especially if you’re sensitive to dairy. [Women’s Health]
If I told you that 10 bucks could get you a yoga or meditation class followed by a vegan dinner here in Philly multiple days a week, you’d probably laugh in my face then shove your latest Sweetgreen receipt toward me to prove just how too-good-to-be-true this sounds. But, my dear friends, I am here to tell you that it is not too good to be true: The folks at South Kensington’s Mantra Lounge, a volunteer-led non-profit yoga and meditation-focused center that opened at 312 East Girard Avenue in August, hosts $10 yoga and/or meditation sessions followed by vegan dinners three times a week.
Okay, go ahead and pick your jaw up off of the ground.
If you need to up your mood (we’re with you there), grab your friends and head Sip-N-Glo’s Rittenhouse shop for a special kind of happy hour tonight. Disclaimer: There won’t be any alcohol on deck for you to drown your sorrows in — but there will be juice, guided meditation and lots of good vibes, all of which are very appreciated right about now.