First thing’s first: I’m sure that Seth Adam Smith is a really, really nice guy. If you’ve seen the pictures on his website and read his writing, it’s clear that Smith has got a kind of earnest, freshly scrubbed All-American handsomeness, along with an intense desire to be a Good Man that one finds in really popular youth pastors. It’s a combination of qualities that is winning and should take him far in life.
But man, I cannot stand his most popular piece of writing. You’ve probably read it. It’s a blog post titled “Marriage Isn’t For You,” and in the last week it’s been linked in a million Facebook timelines, been featured on the Today show, and generally been applauded as a font of wisdom about what marriage should be.
Only: It’s not.
Wharton prof Stewart Friedman has a new book out, Baby Bust, New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family, in which he examines how fewer young people are choosing kids. In a 2012, less than half his students said they planned to have children, down from 78 percent 20 years before. Everybody’s into careers, friends, and “having fulfilling lives” now.
In partnership with SMITH Magazine’s Six-Word Memoir Project, we asked you to submit your queer life stories—succinctly. Every day until we run out, we will present the most touching, poignant and hilarious entries in meme form. Today, one of the hilarious ones, by the lovely Rinna Hoffman.
Join G Philly for a fun Six-Word Memoir Slam on Tue., Oct. 22, when six LGBTers will deliver his or her six words, and then spill the story behind them in six-minute monologues. Click here for more details and ticket info. And click here to see all our LGBT Six-Word Memoirs of the Day to date.
The future of marriage equality could come down to yet another proposed amendment to the Pennsylvania State Constitution that would define marriage between one man and one woman. Representative Daryl Metcalfe has again introduced an amendment that, if passed, would become the first of its kind to legislate discrimination.
“In the near future, I will be introducing legislation proposing an amendment to the Constitution of Pennsylvania providing for the definition of marriage as the union of one man and one woman. My legislation is similar to a bill that passed the House in June 2006 by an overwhelming majority,” he drafted in a memo to the General Assembly.
His memo continues:
New Jersey’s first openly gay Assemblyman Reed Gusciora may have introduced legislation this week that would put same-sex marriage on the ballot as early as next year, but leaders in the Garden State seem to be at odds over whether voters should decide the fate of what many are calling a civil rights issue.
That’s not stopping LGBT groups and other marriage equality supporters from using some of the momentum of last month’s successes in states like Maryland and Maine to help move the issue forward, even if some legislators seem to be dragging their heels.
And while Gov. Chris Christie says he would veto the legislation, a majority of Jersey voters say they support gay marriage rights. A recent poll has support at over half (53 percent) with as many as 72 percent of voters saying they would like to go to the polls to decide the issue.
Harvey Milk once said that “hope will never be silent.” That’s likely what they had in mind when they created Proposition Love, an LGBT jewelry company that has partnered with several celebs to create some unique wedding bands.
“On June 24, 2011, same-sex marriage became legal in New York,” explains the company. “This historic moment inspired us to develop a fine jewelry collection including wedding bands called ‘Proposition Love.’ We have incorporated a triangle into all our designs as a symbol of the ongoing gay rights movement.”
And if you’re thinking about tying the knot anytime soon – and you’re a fan of, say, Kathy Griffin – you’re in luck. The funny girl designed a 14K gold and silver ring with an XOXO design and K/Triangle motif.
Other celebs on board to support marriage equality with their own rings include Melissa Rivers (we bet Joan’s proud), Tori Spelling and Perez Hilton, among others.
The Seattle Times compiled clips from some of the first same-sex marriages taking place in Washington State this month ever since voters legalized marriage equality at the polls. Whether it’s two guys with ZZ Top beards, young women wearing their white wedding dresses or senior citizens who have waited a lifetime to say “I do,” this is what marriage equality looks like in America.
Check it out:
On Friday, the United States Supreme Court made two important announcements that could impact the fuiture of marriage equality in this country. The first was an order granting review in the Hollingsworth v. Perry (formerly Perry v. Brown) in California that challenges Proposition 8 which prevents same-sex couples from marrying. The court is tasked with deciding whether Prop 8 violates the 14th Amendment to the Constitution concerned with depriving people life and liberty.
It all started three years ago when two California couples, Kris Perry and Sandy Stier, and Paul Katami and Jeff Zarrillo, argued that the Prop 8 ruling interfered with their freedom to marry. And by February of this year, the Court of Appeals issued a landmark ruling calling Proposition 8 unconstitutional. The argument isn’t an easy one, though the American Foundation of Equal Rights (AFER) is the sole sponsor of the case.
“Proposition 8 has already been declared unconstitutional in Federal District Court and in the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals. Now the Supreme Court has an opportunity to do the same and send a resounding message of hope to LGBT young people from coast to coast that they have the same dignity and same opportunities for the future as everyone else,” said AFER co-founder Chad Griffin. ”I believe our cherished constitutional principles will win the day and that the Court will uphold the fundamental right that all Americans can marry the one they love.”
For months now, Julie Winokur, producer and co-founder of Talking Eyes Media, has been traveling the country to talk to real Americans about what they think about everything from gay marriage to taxes and abortion in a special web series Bring it to the Table. In case you’re wondering where the title comes from, Winokur literally brings a table with her to get a sense of what people really think about some of the most hot-button issues of our time.
Here’s an example: