Gay Sex and the Philly City: It’s Not Me, It’s You

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I had a therapist about a year ago tell me, “You need to let your hair down when it comes to sex. You need to let loose”

I, quite frankly, took offense to that. I mean, I have been out since I was 16, and if the back seat of my first car (my late grandfather’s white clunker) could talk, well, I’d be labeled a big old whore. (God, the things that happened in the parking lot of the Best Buy store about 20 minutes from my parents’ house …) Yet, my therapist thought I needed to be more playful with the people I dated, or that I needed to show other guys that I could be a fun-loving sexual being.

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STUDY: Gay Men Spend More on First Dates Than Straight Men—But Not in Philly

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I’m gonna pay so much for this salad. | Shutterstock.com

From the hall of funny studies comes this one from date auction site WhatsYourPrice.com, which shows that gay bachelors in the U.S. spend quite a bit more on a first date than their heterosexual counterparts

WhatsYourPrice, which boasts 87,000 gay users, pulled member data to determine how much single men are spending on a first date. Turns out gay men spend a none-too-shabby average of $184, while straight dudes pay about $120.

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There Are 70,000 More Single Women Than Single Men in Philadelphia

Photo by James Losey, Creative Commons License.

Home of all the single ladies | Photo by James Losey, Creative Commons License.

Philadelphia is home to an estimated 70,000 more single women than single men, according to an analysis by CityLab.

Here’s another way to look at it: Philly has 1,074 single ladies for every 1,000 single dudes. That’s a slightly higher ratio than New York City a/k/a the worst place in the world to date while female — where there are 1,072 single women for every 1,000 single men. Read more »

9 Philly Missed Connections That Need to Happen This Valentine’s Day

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It’s not easy to find love — especially in Philadelphia, especially in February.

But it’s not like we’re not trying. No, we’re trying really hard — from the Whole Foods check-out line to the Market-Frankford El — to make contact with fellow humans. Some of us just aren’t very good at it.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’re nudging along some of the cuter Missed Connections posted on Craigslist during the past two weeks. You guys deserve to be happy, if only just for one fake holiday. (As for the gross guys trying to pick up Kelly Drive joggers? Ya’ll are on your own – and stop that right now.)

Recognize yourself? Get in touch! Don’t, but like what you’re reading? These people are looking for love on Craigslist — they’ll probably give you a chance.

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5 New York Subway Pick-Up Tips That Will Never Work on SEPTA

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I can’t imagine what drove Brian Robinson to look for dates on the subway. In the age of Tinder and Match.com — when anything from a hook-up to a minivan is a click away — he prefers to meet women on New York’s subway.

In an aggressively weird profile in the New York Post, Robinson claims to have gone out with “about 500” women thanks to his “smooth” pick-up lines (which, in reality, seem to be plucked from Saved by the Bell drafts). He’s writing an advice book, How to Meet Women on the Subway, despite the fact that most reactions The Post witnessed during a ride-along were somewhere between almost pleasant and politely annoyed — although he did walk away with at least one business card.

Salon is not amused, and neither is Hollaback!, a nonprofit that works to end street harassment. I can see why, as Robinson — who mostly seems like a harmless nerd — comes off a little predatory when he says things like, “There’s always beautiful women down there — tons.”

But I live in Philadelphia, where I don’t have the luxury of being outraged by the Brian Robinsons of the world.

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Survey: Penn, Princeton Grads Are Hard to Date

Alumni from the University of Pennsylvania are among the 10 least-dateable alums of any college in the United States, according to a survey.

Matchmaking site The Dating Ring surveyed 1,600 users about 7,500 dates and came up with the 10-best and 10-worst alumni to date. Penn came in at No. 8, and Princeton No. 9. Babson College (it’s near Boston) had the worst alums to date in the survey, while Rutgers was third-worst.

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RANK YOUR EX: Is BeenRanked.com a Brillant or a Horrible Idea?

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Imagine meeting a guy on Grindr or at Woody’s and before you go on a single date with him, you are able to check out a Yelp-like profile that compiles reviews of your potential future boyfriend by a series of his exes.

No, this isn’t a scene from a knock-off of the Another Gay Movie franchise but the brainchild of local entrepreneur Jason Beschen, who launched his new website BeenRanked.com as a way to screen potential mates before you even make an OpenTable reservation for a first date dinner. Read more »

Philadelphia Named 6th Best City for Singles

Pat yourself on the back, single people. According to rent.com, Philadelphia is the sixth-best city for singles in the country. Before you get too excited, please note that the list includes Jersey City (Jersey City!) at No. 9 and the usual suspects (Seattle, Boston, D.C., New York, San Francisco) in the top five. But, hey, sixth-best is pretty good!

Per the site, 26 percent of Philadelphia’s population is single (and the median one-bedroom rent is $1,295 — and, yeah, you can live for much cheaper than that if you look around a bit).

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Would You Pick Up a Date While Running?

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So, here are a few more reasons to lace up your running shoes and squeeze in an evening sweat session today: According to a survey conducted by Brooks Running, 76 percent of respondents thought that other people look sexy while running and a whopping 51 percent said they’ve used the topic of running in a pick-up line. Whether the pick-up lines worked, we’ll never know. But it looks like the Schuylkill River Trail might just be better than OKCupid when it comes to finding a date—just sayin’.

And if getting picked up on your running route serves as more of a deterrent than a motivation, here’s one more neat statistic from the survey: 83 percent of the folks surveyed claimed they come up with their best ideas while running. So lace up those kicks and watch the brilliant ideas pour in. Happy trails, friends!

Like what you’re reading? Experience Be Well Philly live at Be Well Philly Boot Camp fitness fest on June 7th!

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