LOCAL NEWS: Philly Queer Woman to Launch Inclusive Dating App

Dating Sapiens is a new app that is trying to provide more inclusion for LGBTQ users.

Dating Sapiens is a new app that is trying to provide more inclusion for LGBTQ users.

Tara Taylor is the co-founder of a new dating app geared toward redefining LGBTQ matchmaking.

Two queer women of color have just launched the beta testing submissions for a new dating app focused on inclusive gender identity and expression. “Dating Sapiens is LGBTQIA, feminist, polyamorous, differently abled, and for all people of all colors and all intersections – we’re tired of people feeling like a piece of meat online,” says Philly-based co-founder Tara Taylor. The idea for the project started in April 2015 and has gathered support and promotion here in the city and in New York. At a time in which many LGBTQ dating apps are being criticized for being cisgender male focused, Sapiens has programming that accommodates gender pronoun choice, a proper metric for gender expression, and a deliberate void of direct labels on sexual orientation. “Sapiens is about empowerment … it’s about creating a welcoming dating environment online that doesn’t predicate itself on marginalizing and alienating you,” Taylor says. The company plans to host promotional events in March, followed by a Kickstarter campaign in May, leading up to a full launch in June. Read more »

ADVICE: 5 Ways to Avoid Awkward Ex Encounters



We’ve all been there.

You’re out at one of these fabulous events in the Gayborhood and you spot your ex. “It was bound to happen … but not so soon,” you tell yourself. How do you make this situation as normal as possible without being the center of gossip in the room?

Here are smart ways that could help avoid the awkward encounters of spotting your ex in the Gayborhood. Read more »

Singles Running Groups in Philly: Where Are They? 

I’m not entirely sure how this question popped into my head, but a few weeks back, I began wondering: Where are the singles running groups in Philly? It would seem to me that a running group — where you meet up with other people who are also into running miles upon miles at a time, often in freezing cold weather or rain, for no other reason besides they enjoy it (a hobby some would find all kinds of strange) — would be a great place to meet like-minded humans worthy of a date or two. ALL while getting a run in! Talk about killing two birds with one stone and a win-win situation and all that jazz, right? Read more »

Gay Sex in the Philly City: Bragging About Money on a First Date is a Major Turn-Off

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“Well, to be honest, I’m still sucking on my mother’s tit. … Oh, and I think I’m older than you.” That’s how my date described himself during our first face-to-face encounter at a restaurant along Walnut Street.

Is it any wonder I didn’t feel a magnetic attraction, that I didn’t beg for date two?! There was something utterly gross going on—tit-sucking mom talk aside. (I had seen pictures of his mother on Facebook, and it was not pretty). Don’t get me wrong: He was handsome. But he spent half the evening bragging about how much money he had.

It started with him making it very, very, very clear that he lived in an upscale Rittenhouse condo and that he was a “big boss” at a corporate office on Market Street. I could barely get in a word as we nursed our cocktails: He pontificated about how he purchased an $8,000 camel-hair couch and asked me where my last vacation was. When I told him Las Vegas, he rolled his eyes.

“I could never go there,” he said. “It’s tacky, and with all the work I’ve had done on my face, there is no way I could just sit at a pool and lay in the sun.” Read more »

Gay Sex and the Philly City: It’s Not Me, It’s You

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I had a therapist about a year ago tell me, “You need to let your hair down when it comes to sex. You need to let loose”

I, quite frankly, took offense to that. I mean, I have been out since I was 16, and if the back seat of my first car (my late grandfather’s white clunker) could talk, well, I’d be labeled a big old whore. (God, the things that happened in the parking lot of the Best Buy store about 20 minutes from my parents’ house …) Yet, my therapist thought I needed to be more playful with the people I dated, or that I needed to show other guys that I could be a fun-loving sexual being.

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STUDY: Gay Men Spend More on First Dates Than Straight Men—But Not in Philly

I'm gonna pay so much for this salad. | Shutterstock.com

I’m gonna pay so much for this salad. | Shutterstock.com

From the hall of funny studies comes this one from date auction site WhatsYourPrice.com, which shows that gay bachelors in the U.S. spend quite a bit more on a first date than their heterosexual counterparts

WhatsYourPrice, which boasts 87,000 gay users, pulled member data to determine how much single men are spending on a first date. Turns out gay men spend a none-too-shabby average of $184, while straight dudes pay about $120.

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There Are 70,000 More Single Women Than Single Men in Philadelphia

Photo by James Losey, Creative Commons License.

Home of all the single ladies | Photo by James Losey, Creative Commons License.

Philadelphia is home to an estimated 70,000 more single women than single men, according to an analysis by CityLab.

Here’s another way to look at it: Philly has 1,074 single ladies for every 1,000 single dudes. That’s a slightly higher ratio than New York City a/k/a the worst place in the world to date while female — where there are 1,072 single women for every 1,000 single men. Read more »

9 Philly Missed Connections That Need to Happen This Valentine’s Day


It’s not easy to find love — especially in Philadelphia, especially in February.

But it’s not like we’re not trying. No, we’re trying really hard — from the Whole Foods check-out line to the Market-Frankford El — to make contact with fellow humans. Some of us just aren’t very good at it.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’re nudging along some of the cuter Missed Connections posted on Craigslist during the past two weeks. You guys deserve to be happy, if only just for one fake holiday. (As for the gross guys trying to pick up Kelly Drive joggers? Ya’ll are on your own – and stop that right now.)

Recognize yourself? Get in touch! Don’t, but like what you’re reading? These people are looking for love on Craigslist — they’ll probably give you a chance.

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5 New York Subway Pick-Up Tips That Will Never Work on SEPTA


I can’t imagine what drove Brian Robinson to look for dates on the subway. In the age of Tinder and Match.com — when anything from a hook-up to a minivan is a click away — he prefers to meet women on New York’s subway.

In an aggressively weird profile in the New York Post, Robinson claims to have gone out with “about 500” women thanks to his “smooth” pick-up lines (which, in reality, seem to be plucked from Saved by the Bell drafts). He’s writing an advice book, How to Meet Women on the Subway, despite the fact that most reactions The Post witnessed during a ride-along were somewhere between almost pleasant and politely annoyed — although he did walk away with at least one business card.

Salon is not amused, and neither is Hollaback!, a nonprofit that works to end street harassment. I can see why, as Robinson — who mostly seems like a harmless nerd — comes off a little predatory when he says things like, “There’s always beautiful women down there — tons.”

But I live in Philadelphia, where I don’t have the luxury of being outraged by the Brian Robinsons of the world.

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