The Grammys Should Apologize to Whitney Houston’s Family

Executive producer Ken Ehrlich’s cavalier attitude about domestic abuse undercuts last night’s memorial to the diva.

Last night’s Grammy Awards marked two momentous occasions: the first public memorial for Whitney Houston, who died in a Beverly Hills hotel room on Saturday, and the first time rapper Chris Brown was allowed to return to the ceremony after being blacklisted following charges for beating the crap out of his then-girlfriend, Rihanna, in 2009.

For the Grammys, it was a moment of respectability and shame—though maybe not for the reasons you’re thinking.

Just hours after news of Houston’s death was released, Grammy officials announced that Jennifer Hudson, who accepted her 2009 Grammy from Houston and memorably performed “I Have Nothing” on American Idol, had been added to the evening’s lineup to honor the diva. The show opened with LL Cool J, the evening’s emcee, offering up a prayer for Houston and then using Obama-like oration to bring mood back up and remind viewers and the in-studio crowd that the night wasn’t about mourning, it was about music.

After the standard “In Memorium” portion of the show, a visibly emotional Hudson belted out “I Will Always Love You,” adding Whitney’s name to the last chorus. It was moving and sweet. The performance hit melancholic notes without being overwrought. It was a gentle way to remember the voice of a generation and strengthen the fans and friends who loved Houston.

All of it would’ve seemed honorable in the face of tragedy had the evening not also been marred by a statement from Grammy producer Ken Ehrlich about the return of Chris Brown.

“I think people deserve a second chance, you know. If you’ll note, he has not been on the Grammys for the past few years and it may have taken us a while to kind of get over the fact that we were the victim of what happened,” Ehrlich told ABC News Radio.

Second chances are one thing. In Philadelphia, of all places, we get it. (See: Vick, Michael. Stein, Neil.) Perhaps Brown, who was nominated for three awards last night and has undergone counseling and performed community service, should have been allowed to attend the ceremony. But to clarify: Ehrlich considers the Grammy Awards—not Rihanna—victims of Brown’s abuse.

This sentiment—disturbing to start—is even more alarming in the wake of Houston’s death. Though autopsy results have not yet been released, it’s difficult to argue that Houston’s disastrous relationship with Bobby Brown—marred by drug abuse and domestic violence—didn’t contribute to her eventual downfall and perhaps her death, though autopsy results won’t be released for some time.

To use the occasion to theatrically mourn Houston without mentioning the irony of the evening also honoring one of the world’s most famous wife beaters was a mistake. To take the focus away from Brown’s victim—and the other victims of domestic violence—was downright disrespectful. Ehrlich, on behalf of the Grammys, owes apologies: To Rihanna, for undercutting the trauma she suffered through; to the family of Whitney Houston, who needn’t be reminded of the horrific effects of spousal abuse; and to all victims of domestic violence, who need support, not showboating.

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  • alexbarbadoro5

    Totally agree. He’s a cowardly thug. And to deliberately put him & his victim in the same place at the same time is a new low, even for Hollywood.

  • Victor Fiorillo

    I’m all for second chances, but to glorify him with not one but two performance segments last night was wrong.

  • Natalie Hope McDonald

    The only reason anyone in the music industry cares about giving Chris Brown a second chance (or is it the fourth or fifth by now – the guy’s had several public temper tantrums since the Rhianna incident) is because he translates into dollar signs. If he wasn’t worth his weight in gold, he’d be a ghost. As an aside, thought his solo performance was mediocre at best. Jennifer Hudson, on the other hand, was genuinely moving.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000378531790 Alialison

    Grammy officials had a prime opportunity to shout out to men and women, young and old: “We want do everything we can to prevent domestic abuse.” Think of how it would be to hear the Grammy producers or a famous singer state to the world:
    “We are devastated not only by Houston’s death, but also by the domestic abuse that Houston, and Rihanna, and 1 out of 4 women have had to suffer, as well its indelible repercussions.” I agree wholeheartedly with Ms. Palan’s excellent article.

  • vtr857

    Defintely agree that people deserve second chances, but that quote by Ehrlich is disgusting. Natalie hit the nail on the head: The Grammy’s doesn’t care one bit about Chris Brown or his personal issues, they care about the money he brings them. And that is the reason, and only reason, why he was allowed back. Ehrlich even confirms that in this regrettable quote. Pathetic.

    Great article, Erica.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=5706407 Aprille

    The show was good, the tribute was enough. The fact that this article is trying to draw parellels between Whitney life, her untimely death and Chris Brown’s stage time is pointless. Last time I remember the grammy officials predicted winners of their awards and not when someone would pass away. This could have very much been a tribute article to Whitney or in the absence of her death been a congratulations to Chris Brown for finding his way back into the music industry after being blacklisted. Enjoy and celebrate the music and remember that these people are not higher than god. They have families that love them more than the fans could ever think they could. So if you don’t like them report on something more relevant to they’re careers like the music they make.

  • tiarusso71

    I hope the author isn’t implying that Michael Vick’s “second chance” was deserved? That scum should still be in prison. He had a hundreds of chances, every day he woke up, and after every dog he murdered. I hope he has a career ending injury.