Q: Months ago, I was pleasantly surprised to receive a save-the-date to a wedding I wasn’t expecting to be invited to, but am quite excited to attend—except we’re now four weeks away from the Big Day and I haven’t received an actual invite. Should I reach out to the couple in case the invite has gone missing? I’m just a bit nervous about this in case they decided, after all, to cut me from the list since the save-the-dates have gone out.
To start your weekend on a funny note, we just had to share with you a hilarious video that’ll make you think twice about the little ones you choose to play a part in your Big Day.
Sure, there are tons of very well-behaved munchkins out there who will totally steal the show and look super cute at your wedding, but there are also the kiddos—like these 17 ring bearers and flower girls—who could care less about sticking to the script, and will steal the show in a totally different way.
Here’s hoping the kids in your wedding don’t act like this:
I was at a wedding a few summers ago during peak “Call Me Maybe,” and towards the end of the night, one of my guy friends from college—more than one beer in, of course—who very much wanted to hear the chart-topping tune decided to go request that the DJ play it. He might have even done it a second time when out of my eyesight—but at least I stopped him before he went to “offer the DJ his phone,” lest the reason the professional music player hadn’t complied with my friend’s request was because he didn’t have it. (Bless his tipsy, pop-loving heart.)
Because the thing is, the DJ at any wedding has about a million really solid reasons for not complying with your request—not the least of which being that the wedding at which you are a guest has nothing to do with you, or your wants and needs for the dance floor.
Feelings have changed on the whole requesting-cash-for-wedding-gifts thing even since I have been hanging out here at Philadelphia Wedding. I feel like way back when, it was still super gross to convey in any way that you’d prefer checks over blenders. Then, slowly, it was fine if people knew, via your mother or best friend, that the two of you were saving with all your might for a down payment on a house—though this was in addition to still having a full registry set up, from serving platters to guest towels. (I’ve always agreed with and referenced this Post-sanctioned philosophy on the subject.)
Today, couples registering on sites like Honeyfund, where guests can “buy” particular parts of a couple’s honeymoon are de rigeur, and it’s more widely accepted as reality, even among the great-aunt set, that many couples are marrying both later in life, and after having lived together, where they acquired all the toasters they feel they’ll ever need. However, out-and-out just asking for straight-up cash, with nary a requested linen or place setting in sight, has still been generally frowned upon.
Well, we feel that starting to change, too. Enter the newest addition to the online registry world: Envelope.
Piecing together your guest list (as in, gathering the names of every relative, friend, and parents’ friend, etc. on both your side and your groom’s) is a massive project in and of itself, but it’s trimming down that list that can prove to be the most challenging part of all.
Question: We’ve settled on a wedding date, and because it’s in the not-too-distant future, we want to get our save-the-dates out as soon as possible. Thing is, we haven’t completely settled on our final guest list yet. Is it okay if not every single person who will get an invite gets a save-the-date? Or is that bad form?
A good friend of mine found herself chatting with a guy she’s known since grade school during her wedding reception. It was all well and good and lovely until he casually made a comment about how, when she appeared at the top of the aisle with her father in the church she had grown up in not a few hours before, he found himself wishing that he was her husband-to-be waiting at the end of said aisle.
Question: I was recently invited to a wedding of an old family friend. I’d like to go, but I won’t know anyone else there, and I wasn’t invited with a date. I have a sense that that’s more because she doesn’t actually realize or remember that I have a serious significant other (we’ve known each other a long time, but don’t speak often)—not because her guest list can’t afford it.
Is there a tactful way to mention my boyfriend to her over the coming weeks, or should I just forget it? I just don’t want to decline the invite just because I won’t know a soul there.