Question: We are going to use a wedding photo-sharing app so that we can gather all of our guests’ fun pictures from our reception—but what’s the best way to spread the word and really get people to use it during the wedding? I don’t want to spend the week we get back from the honeymoon texting 200 people to ask them to send us their photos!
At some point during the planning process, you’ll have to make a decision about whether or not to have kids at your wedding. Some brides are perfectly okay with having little ones scooting around the dance floor and are happy to extend the invite, while others prefer an adults-only affair (maybe with just a flower girl and ring bearer in attendance).
It all comes down to personal preference, but if you do choose to have a bunch of youngsters at your wedding, you’ll want to prepared with plenty of activities to keep them entertained—it’ll be a long day, and even the most well-behaved kids can get antsy and irritable.
There are few things more uncomfortable than sitting through an outdoor wedding ceremony in the summer. We’ve all been there, and I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s a tad difficult to focus on the romantic words being said when makeup is sweating down your face, your thighs are sticking to the seat and you’re in dire need of a cold drink.
Weather, unfortunately, is one of those stubborn factors we just can’t control, and if you’re a summer bride, the possibility of extreme heat is definitely on your radar. Now that doesn’t mean you should forgo your dream of an outdoor ceremony or a beach wedding, but it’s in your (and your guests’) best interest to be prepared with ways to keep cool.
Q: We had to change the date of our wedding from a Saturday to the very next day, that Sunday—but we’ve already sent out our save-the-dates. What’s the best way to let people know about the change? Do we need to resend save-the-dates?
The topic of what couples have to do for their wedding guests vs. what is just nice to do if budget and time allows is a topic that comes up frequently during the wedding-planning process (in case you haven’t already noticed), and because of that, it’s a topic that’s often worth revisiting. A lot of time is spent considering etiquette when you are a wedding guest (RSVPing on time, not wearing white, what kind of gift to give, etc.), but there sure as heck is a lot of etiquette to consider concerning handling your guests as the marrying duo.
Over the years we’ve fielded tons of questions about wedding gifts, and so we’ve done our very best to fill the blog with plenty of advice on the topic for both the bride and groom and their guests. For the engaged set, we’ve tackled the ins and outs of wedding registries and the best ways to ask for cash or honeymoon donations instead of kitchen gadgets and bath towels. And for the party goers, we’ve discussed how much to spend and whether or not gifts are actually necessary for all of those pre-wedding celebrations.
Let’s be honest: Nothing positive can come from being a sloppy wedding guest. No matter how you slice it, getting rip-roaring drunk at someone else’s affair is a recipe for disaster and embarrassment—not to mention the fact that your drunken antics can potentially ruin the day for the bride and groom (which is really the main reason why you should be mindful of how much you’re drinking).
That’s not to say you shouldn’t indulge in the open bar and let loose a bit (it is a party after all), it’s just a matter of knowing your tolerance and pacing yourself throughout the day.
Q: Months ago, I was pleasantly surprised to receive a save-the-date to a wedding I wasn’t expecting to be invited to, but am quite excited to attend—except we’re now four weeks away from the Big Day and I haven’t received an actual invite. Should I reach out to the couple in case the invite has gone missing? I’m just a bit nervous about this in case they decided, after all, to cut me from the list since the save-the-dates have gone out.
To start your weekend on a funny note, we just had to share with you a hilarious video that’ll make you think twice about the little ones you choose to play a part in your Big Day.
Sure, there are tons of very well-behaved munchkins out there who will totally steal the show and look super cute at your wedding, but there are also the kiddos—like these 17 ring bearers and flower girls—who could care less about sticking to the script, and will steal the show in a totally different way.
Here’s hoping the kids in your wedding don’t act like this:
I was at a wedding a few summers ago during peak “Call Me Maybe,” and towards the end of the night, one of my guy friends from college—more than one beer in, of course—who very much wanted to hear the chart-topping tune decided to go request that the DJ play it. He might have even done it a second time when out of my eyesight—but at least I stopped him before he went to “offer the DJ his phone,” lest the reason the professional music player hadn’t complied with my friend’s request was because he didn’t have it. (Bless his tipsy, pop-loving heart.)
Because the thing is, the DJ at any wedding has about a million really solid reasons for not complying with your request—not the least of which being that the wedding at which you are a guest has nothing to do with you, or your wants and needs for the dance floor.