Q: We’re fine with people sharing and posting photos during the reception, but we’d prefer they don’t have their phones out during the ceremony. How do we go about conveying that?
I read this post on Bustle the other day, and chuckled to myself in a it’s-funny-cause-it’s-true kind of way: wedding planners have to deal with a lot in order to get your day off without a hitch—a lot of personalities, logistics, obstacles, you name it—but in the end, they do deal with it all because they love it. They want your day to be awesome, and they want to be the ones to help make it awesome.
But that doesn’t mean it’s all fun and games and giggles on the way to that awesome day, and it got me thinking about what aspects of planning a wedding and working with couples and their families drive Philly’s very own fabulous wedding planners insane. So I asked! And they unleashed.
We have called on Beth D’Andrea more than once here at PW, because with her experience as a financial counselor (through her Malvern-based firm, Plumtree Financial Planning) who has done a ton of work with newlyweds, she knows a thing or two about what it takes for couples to begin, officially, a new financial life together.
And even though it’s not as fun for us all to talk about as what shade of hydrangea will make up your centerpieces, making sure you off on the right financial track together is a heck of a lot more important—so we asked Beth for her tips on how you can do just that. “So many couples spend hours and hours planning a spectacular wedding day, and we want to help them plan a fabulous life to follow,” she says. “Young couples getting married bring more to the union than couches and silverware—they bring bank accounts, savings and sometimes, even debt. Developing a strategy to merge their finances puts the couple in charge of their money (and their future) not the other way around.”
And so, here’s her cheat sheet: Use it to make sure that when you get back from the honeymoon, you’re not greeted by both a huge pile of thank-you notes that need to be written—and a scary mound of debt.
Question: I’m going to have a bouquet for my wedding, so will my bridesmaids, and we’ll probably have some other various flowers for the day, too. For my centerpieces, though, I wanted to do something with clear glass vessels, sand, seashells and lots of tea lights—both to save money on flowers and just because I love that idea for our summer wedding at the Shore. But does a florist do that, even though that doesn’t actually involve flowers? Or is that something I’ll have to either do myself or hire a different type of vendor to do?
If you met a wedding planner at a cocktail party, we’re guessing the first thing you’d ask her wouldn’t have to do with, say, how she got into the industry or what kind of flowers she thinks are the prettiest at spring weddings. Admit it: You’d want her stories! The juciest, the Bridezilla-iest, the most disastrous—and we can’t blame you. Hey, we’re in this industry, and what can we say? They’re entertaining to hear.
Well, Philadelphia wedding planner Lynda Barness, who founded her company I DO Wedding Consulting a decade ago and has been gathering such stories ever since, has just published chock full of ‘em: I Do: A Wedding Planner Tells Tales.
Q: Months ago, I was pleasantly surprised to receive a save-the-date to a wedding I wasn’t expecting to be invited to, but am quite excited to attend—except we’re now four weeks away from the Big Day and I haven’t received an actual invite. Should I reach out to the couple in case the invite has gone missing? I’m just a bit nervous about this in case they decided, after all, to cut me from the list since the save-the-dates have gone out.
We’ve been fans of the talented ladies over at Love Me Do Photography for quite a few years now, and have very much enjoyed both featuring their work in the Real Wedding section of the magazine, in our Picture of the Week posts, and gazing at their pretty blog when in need of a little inspiration (or, you know, procrastination that just also happens to be super pretty and work-related).
This week, Carina and Amanda and their team posted what we found to be a super helpful guide to getting the most out of your engagement shoot, and so we’re sharing their advice here. It seems to us that often, couples sign on for engagement sessions either because their moms want the photos, or it simply comes with the package they’ve purchased from their wedding photographer … but it really can be a great way for the two of you to get to know your photographer before he or she is connected to your hip for ten hours on your wedding day—and to loosen up in front of the camera! Most of us aren’t used to having a lens trained on us for so long, and an engagement shoot can break that ice.
So, before you plan yours, take a look at these tips. We have a feeling you’ll end up loving your engagement photos as much as the ones from your wedding day.
I was at a wedding a few summers ago during peak “Call Me Maybe,” and towards the end of the night, one of my guy friends from college—more than one beer in, of course—who very much wanted to hear the chart-topping tune decided to go request that the DJ play it. He might have even done it a second time when out of my eyesight—but at least I stopped him before he went to “offer the DJ his phone,” lest the reason the professional music player hadn’t complied with my friend’s request was because he didn’t have it. (Bless his tipsy, pop-loving heart.)
Because the thing is, the DJ at any wedding has about a million really solid reasons for not complying with your request—not the least of which being that the wedding at which you are a guest has nothing to do with you, or your wants and needs for the dance floor.
Feelings have changed on the whole requesting-cash-for-wedding-gifts thing even since I have been hanging out here at Philadelphia Wedding. I feel like way back when, it was still super gross to convey in any way that you’d prefer checks over blenders. Then, slowly, it was fine if people knew, via your mother or best friend, that the two of you were saving with all your might for a down payment on a house—though this was in addition to still having a full registry set up, from serving platters to guest towels. (I’ve always agreed with and referenced this Post-sanctioned philosophy on the subject.)
Today, couples registering on sites like Honeyfund, where guests can “buy” particular parts of a couple’s honeymoon are de rigeur, and it’s more widely accepted as reality, even among the great-aunt set, that many couples are marrying both later in life, and after having lived together, where they acquired all the toasters they feel they’ll ever need. However, out-and-out just asking for straight-up cash, with nary a requested linen or place setting in sight, has still been generally frowned upon.
Well, we feel that starting to change, too. Enter the newest addition to the online registry world: Envelope.
Question: My boyfriend and I just got engaged and were actually considering trying to pull this off in a few months—but first, I’m trying to see what the various challenges would be. I was wondering: How restricted would I be with dress shopping? Can I get a dress very quickly if I pay for rush? How much do rush fees tend to be?