Question: We have a bunch of guests coming in from out of town for our wedding, some of them a few days before the main event. Are we expected to plan activities to keep them entertained?
Back in January, we started talking about the various headaches that the pontiff’s visit to Philadelphia was going to cause local couples getting married that last weekend in September. The main focus at that point in time was nabbing hotel rooms for your guests—but now that we’re closer to the main event, and we know a lot more about what it will mean for the city (you’ll definitely want to pay attention to this “traffic box” business), not surprisingly, even more obstacles have come to light.
We just read about one couple in particular whose wedding was actually canceled by the Secret Service just before their invitations went out for the crime of being located too close to one of Pope Francis’s events (they were tying the knot at the Down Town Club; the pope is set to speak at Independence Mall that same night)—so we thought perhaps now might be the time to remind you of those tips we gathered from wedding planner Lynda Barness back when all of this hubbub was beginning:
Question: We are going to use a wedding photo-sharing app so that we can gather all of our guests’ fun pictures from our reception—but what’s the best way to spread the word and really get people to use it during the wedding? I don’t want to spend the week we get back from the honeymoon texting 200 people to ask them to send us their photos!
Question: Our save-the-dates are ready to be mailed, but my fiancé and I haven’t decided which of our guests will be invited with plus-ones. Is it okay to wait to indicate if people are invited with guests until the invitations go out?
Q: We had to change the date of our wedding from a Saturday to the very next day, that Sunday—but we’ve already sent out our save-the-dates. What’s the best way to let people know about the change? Do we need to resend save-the-dates?
Jimmy Fallon’s Horrifying Ring Avulsion Injury Is Another Reason to Make Sure Your Wedding Ring Fits
I was one of the many people in recent weeks who were fascinated to know what kind of finger injury Jimmy Fallon could have possibly suffered that would have kept him out of commission for so long.
I am also one of the many people who lost all feeling in their knees last night when Jimmy described what happened to him and his wedding ring, and who nodded along in confirmation when he warned the people of the world not to Google “ring avulsion”:
Q: In figuring out my dress budget, I’m trying to calculate how much I’ll be able to make back on it by consigning it at a store or selling it online. Is there a standard percentage I could use to try and gauge that as I’m shopping? I’d plan on doing it right after the wedding so the design is still current.
Q: We’re fine with people sharing and posting photos during the reception, but we’d prefer they don’t have their phones out during the ceremony. How do we go about conveying that?
I read this post on Bustle the other day, and chuckled to myself in a it’s-funny-cause-it’s-true kind of way: wedding planners have to deal with a lot in order to get your day off without a hitch—a lot of personalities, logistics, obstacles, you name it—but in the end, they do deal with it all because they love it. They want your day to be awesome, and they want to be the ones to help make it awesome.
But that doesn’t mean it’s all fun and games and giggles on the way to that awesome day, and it got me thinking about what aspects of planning a wedding and working with couples and their families drive Philly’s very own fabulous wedding planners insane. So I asked! And they unleashed.
We have called on Beth D’Andrea more than once here at PW, because with her experience as a financial counselor (through her Malvern-based firm, Plumtree Financial Planning) who has done a ton of work with newlyweds, she knows a thing or two about what it takes for couples to begin, officially, a new financial life together.
And even though it’s not as fun for us all to talk about as what shade of hydrangea will make up your centerpieces, making sure you off on the right financial track together is a heck of a lot more important—so we asked Beth for her tips on how you can do just that. “So many couples spend hours and hours planning a spectacular wedding day, and we want to help them plan a fabulous life to follow,” she says. “Young couples getting married bring more to the union than couches and silverware—they bring bank accounts, savings and sometimes, even debt. Developing a strategy to merge their finances puts the couple in charge of their money (and their future) not the other way around.”
And so, here’s her cheat sheet: Use it to make sure that when you get back from the honeymoon, you’re not greeted by both a huge pile of thank-you notes that need to be written—and a scary mound of debt.