We spend a lot of time over here talking about the various things you should be talking about with your various wedding vendors—much of which should happen before you sign on any dotted lines. Not only will asking the right questions help you choose the right people, but surprises and gray areas are two things you most definitely want to avoid when it comes what can be expected on your wedding day.
Question: I was recently invited to a wedding of an old family friend. I’d like to go, but I won’t know anyone else there, and I wasn’t invited with a date. I have a sense that that’s more because she doesn’t actually realize or remember that I have a serious significant other (we’ve known each other a long time, but don’t speak often)—not because her guest list can’t afford it.
Is there a tactful way to mention my boyfriend to her over the coming weeks, or should I just forget it? I just don’t want to decline the invite just because I won’t know a soul there.
Question: I’d love to have my young niece play a role in my wedding, but she seems a bit too old to be a flower girl. Is there a cut off age where a girl should no longer be a flower girl and instead be a junior bridesmaid? And at what point does a junior bridesmaid become a real one?
Question: When my husband and I went to deposit the generous checks given to us by some guests as gifts, one of them bounced. We feel so awkward! How should we handle this with the guest?
You know normally, we’re the ones reaching out to the fab peeps in the Philly wedding industry to get their take on things; to ask them to provide solutions to wedding-planning stumpers, to chat about their favorite things, or whatever else we’re talking about over here on PW.
Well this week, someone turned the tables on us, and this time it was me yapping away about all the things I love about weddings in Philadelphia!
If you are getting married in Philadelphia the same September weekend that will see the city play host to Pope Francis’ visit, well, then we don’t need to tell you that there will undoubtedly be some logistical hurdles coming your way. Our guess is that managing those hurdles—namely that hotels have blocked out basically all of the city’s thousands of hotel rooms in anticipation of the influx of visitors—has already taken up a good deal of your time.
A quick scan of Airbnb did show (reasonable!) rental availability in Philly the weekend of September 25-27, but if you’re still hoping to house the majority of your guests in the same spot for your wedding, wedding planner Lynda Barness of Philly’s I Do Wedding Consulting—who has also weathered the wedding nightmares caused by Jay-Z’s descending on the city—has a few ideas:
Question: Neither my fiancé nor I love the whole wedding-party-announcement thing at receptions, but we’re worried that without it, there’s nothing to officially kick the party off. Are there any good alternatives?
Question: My partner and I got married soon after same-sex weddings became legal in Pennsylvania, and we’d like to use a hyphenated combination of both our last names. How do we do that?
Prenups are (obviously) not one of the more romantic topics we discuss here on the blog, but they are nonetheless an important aspect of tying the knot. Whether you and your to-be plan to sign one is completely up to the two of you, but either way, it’s beneficial to at least have an understanding of what these pre-marriage agreements entail.
Question: My friend, a graphic designer, offered her services for our wedding invitations as her gift. I’m concerned, though, about getting into an awkward situation where I’m not happy with the results. Is it rude to tell her no thank you?