Question: My partner and I got married soon after same-sex weddings became legal in Pennsylvania, and we’d like to use a hyphenated combination of both our last names. How do we do that?
Prenups are (obviously) not one of the more romantic topics we discuss here on the blog, but they are nonetheless an important aspect of tying the knot. Whether you and your to-be plan to sign one is completely up to the two of you, but either way, it’s beneficial to at least have an understanding of what these pre-marriage agreements entail.
Question: My friend, a graphic designer, offered her services for our wedding invitations as her gift. I’m concerned, though, about getting into an awkward situation where I’m not happy with the results. Is it rude to tell her no thank you?
Question: My friend got married during a time when I was insanely busy and stressed, and I am just now realizing that I don’t think I ever sent them a gift—and the wedding was nearly a year ago.
How much did I miss the standard time frame for sending a gift? Is it ever too late, and at what point would be weirder/ruder to send one?
How did you and your new spouse decide where you’d celebrate Thanksgiving yesterday? Was it a painful process, or did you two exhibit flawless teamwork and compromising skills with your first married holiday out of the gate?
Q: I know that it’s standard practice to offer a vegetarian option for the dinner at our wedding, but these days, I feel like everyone is doing the gluten-free thing—including, we’re assuming, some of our guests. (Whether they’re all doing it for allergy reasons or because it’s a fad is another story.) Must we now offer a gluten-free option, too?
Here’s the thing: wedding vendors very often have super helpful advice and/or tips and/or do’s and don’t’s that would extremely useful for their couples to know—but a lot of this stuff is some seriously blunt real talk, and by the time they are your hired person, they’re probably not going to break it down for you in the same way that they can when they are just speaking in the general sense. Except that seriously blunt break down is what can be most helpful to hear.
Ever since social media basically took over the world, there’s been talk about the role that it should, or shouldn’t, play in the biggest day of your life. The pros and cons of documenting your wedding on Facebook and Instagram have been debated on multiple occasions, and we here at PW have our own opinions about how to handle the whole social media situation (hint: it’s always up to the couple to decide what they do and don’t want posted online).
The Washington Post mused today on whether the whole freezing the top tier of your wedding cake for the purposes of sentimental consumption on your first anniversary thing is a tradition that should just die already.
So, while I think that whether or not you choose to follow this tradition is completely a matter of preference and that it’s definitely not necessary for a tradition to not exist (or die) in order for a couple to voluntarily just, you know, not follow it, what I did find interesting in the piece was a whole slew of pointers for successfully freezing and defrosting your wedding cake, if that’s an effort you’re choosing to put forth.
They basically break down like this:
According to the peeps at MissNowMrs.com—the super smart and helpful website that will make changing your post-nuptial name not a nightmare, no matter what state you live in—October is the month in which most newlyweds finally get around to changing their last names to whatever new version they’re going with, whether you’re a recent bride planning to take your new husband’s last name, or a same-sex couple looking to combine and hyphenate, or what have you.
The reasons why the oh-crap-I-still-haven’t-changed-my-name moment comes crashing down on so many this month are pretty interesting—and will actually serve as a pretty great kick in the butt if you have been meaning to complete this task, yourself: