Question: In addition to being a guest at my friend’s wedding, I’ve also been invited to quite a few of the showers and parties that happen before the Big Day. It seems a bit excessive, not to mention costly, to bring a gift to each one of these celebrations but I feel uncomfortable showing up empty-handed. For the engagement party, bachelorette party, and other events of that nature, are gifts expected or required?
Question: I was thinking of typing up a form thank-you letter and then changing it a little to personalize it for each of my guests. Is it okay to have a typed thank-you note like this? Or is handwriting each of them a must?
It’s funny, most of the time, when you’re reading things like—well, this—any trouble that’s being referred to between a bride and a mother is usually the dreaded mother-in-law. But if you consider all of the conversations you may have had with girlfriends who were getting married—and if you consider for a minute who has more than likely annoyed you a good handful of times since you’ve gotten engaged—chances are another lady will come to mind: the mother of the bride.
Question: The RSVP date for my wedding is quickly approaching but I haven’t received as many response cards as I would’ve expected by now. What should I do if my guests don’t RSVP by the given date?
Question: My mother wants to throw my bridal shower. Is it inappropriate for her to host?
Question: I know that it’s customary to send a gift if you’re invited to a wedding that you can’t attend—but what about a bridal shower? Is it expected to that you’ll send a shower gift to the bride if you can’t make her party?
Question: My fiancé and I plan to get married at City Hall here in Philly but would still like to have a few friends and family in attendance for the Big Day. How many guests are you allowed to bring to the ceremony?
Today on the Huffington Post’s wedding blog, we spied one of those “Wow, that’s a great question” questions: Why do wedding invitations come in two envelopes?
You know – you open the first and then there you are again, faced with yet another envelope, looking very much like the one you just opened, sans stamp. What’s the deal?
Anna Post (great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post) answered the question, because, naturally, she would know.
With the extreme and all-encompassing grasp that social media has on our lives these days, by this point there’s no doubt you have heard of or even been to weddings that are strongly on one side of the fence or another: couples who very much want you to Instagram and Facebook their wedding and all that jazz, and even give you the hashtag you should use to do so—and then there are couples who very much do not want you to have your face in your cell phone during their celebration or share their wedding-day business on social media. We’ve heard of couples who even wish to check their guests’ cell phones at the door, but unless you are Beyonce, we’ve already told you how we feel about that.
Recently on HuffPo, we spied this etiquette question: “Only immediate family is invited to our wedding. Are announcements okay? Or is that looking for a gift?”
I was thinking to myself, Well no, you had a teeny wedding, an announcement seems appropriate, there—and then I read the first line of the answer, from Anna Post (great-great granddaughter of Emily, of course):