He Said, They Said

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The question of why has fatally snagged two trials in Philadelphia; it has protected — all but insulated — Jeffrey Marsalis from virtually every one of the dozens of charges he’s faced; it has torpedoed the stories of 10 women. And yet, in the case that seems destined to finally undo him completely, it is a question suddenly, conspicuously, absent.

Once again, according to the allegations in court documents, it begins at a bar — this time Whiskey Jacques’, in Ketchum, Idaho. It is late 2005, just 10 days before Marsalis’s first criminal trial in Philadelphia is set to begin; his father has posted his bond, and Marsalis is staying at his mother’s condominium. He’s gotten a job as a security guard at the Sun Valley ski resort, and sitting beside him now is a co-worker, 21-year-old K. He tells her he’s a paramedic. K., wishing to be up-front, informs Marsalis outright that she’s not looking for a boyfriend, that she’s actually gay. He continues ordering drinks; so far, she’s had two beers. He orders her a kamikaze. She turns it up to drink — in the bottom, she notices an undissolved granular substance that looks like sugar but tastes bitter. She goes to the bathroom, comes back to a third beer he has waiting for her. Her memory begins fracturing.

And like all the others, she wakes in his bed in confusion. Except this time, the woman does something different. Later that day, she goes to the police.

Her blood is drawn for date-rape drugs; it is negative, which is not unexpected, given the hours that have passed. The rape kit, however, allegedly connects him to her. There are, what’s more, witnesses from a van-style taxi who told authorities K. appeared to be extremely drunk, that Marsalis essentially carried her out of the van, apologizing, implying she was his girlfriend or wife.

Marsalis, for the first time, agrees to talk to authorities, who are still unaware of the charges he’s facing here. He denies having had intercourse with K.

“If I was, you know, wanted to have sex with, you know, she is more of a manly type of a woman, for one,” he allegedly tells authorities. “I knew she was a lesbian that liked other women, so if I was going to have sex with somebody, wouldn’t I have picked someone who is some drop-dead gorgeous woman? You think?”

He is arrested and charged with drugging and raping K. (His arrest would prove inadmissible in Marsalis’s cases here.) The Idaho trial is expected to begin soon, once he is sentenced in Philadelphia.

Which is to say that should K. be telling the truth, and should a jury believe her, one woman will finally succeed in doing what some 30 others did not. She will have convinced herself, immediately and independent of the influence of anyone else, that the position she awoke to that morning was not of her choosing or consent. She will have convinced herself that she bore no guilt in the matter and had been horribly violated. And she will have convinced herself that the person sleeping beside her, the good-looking, safe-looking man she barely knew, the kindly paramedic from a few hours earlier, was for her at that moment as he lay there one thing and one thing only: the rapist she could not avoid confronting.


*Names of alleged victims have been changed.

Email: dlee@phillymag.com

Originally published in Philadelphia magazine, October 2007

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WORDS FOR MARSALIS
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 12:44 AM
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Psychologically speaking, directly to Marsalis, because I know you are reading this. You drugged them b/c you are so afraid of women you are afraid they won’t like it when you have sex with them, so you drug them and rape them out of your own fear that you will never please them. You have major issues of hatred for your mom, and you are afraid of her for ways she abused you. So you see every woman you ever meet as capable of hurting you like your mom did. At the same time you are afraid to grow up and actually make something of yourself so you lie to these women to get them to date you, and knowing all you are is a lie, you then realize you can never ever satisfy the types of women you rape. And that is why you rape them. Really you are angry at your mother and you need major therapy, which you may or may not get in jail when you end up there.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?"
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:20 AM
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Date rape happens to 1 in 4 women. THIS IS A FACT. I have been in therapy 2 years trying to understand the rape that happened to me in the fall of 1999 (8 years ago), my senior year in college. I too re-engaged with my rapist hoping to “make it go away” or “regain control,” to actively suppress it. I felt I deserved what I got. I was embarrassed, I didn’t want to admit something that trashy and gross happened to me. I didn’t think anyone would someday want to marry a woman who was “RAPED.” I was so removed from what happened to me, I didn’t even get it that my rapist had INTENDED to cause me HARM. Plus, no one I knew was willing to call it rape, much less to do something about it, or help me do something about it, and the rapist himself (just like Marsalis) did all he could to convince me it wasn’t rape, but rather my twisted imagination. So it was not just me who made the whole situation fuzzy and hard to understand. The most I could do at the time was write it out.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:20 AM
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I wrote out my feelings and shared them in the writing class where I’d met my rapist, and I shared them aloud as part of an assignment, in front of my rapist and the rest of the class. And though I never named him, everyone including the prof, knew exactly who I was talking about. This was the best I could do at the time. Somehow my description of my confusion, powerlessness, and that fuzzy desire to regain control after the fact made him stop pursuing me (as I’d intended) after my reading, but about 6 weeks later he made a final attempt to try to seduce me. I couldn’t believe this RAPIST had no shame, no comprehension of my disgust, no fear of reprisal, and obviously no regard for my personal well-being. But as I now understand it better in therapy, I see that it was never about anything but power to him from the start.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:20 AM
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My rapist raped me believing he had the right to harm me, he knew it was wrong the second it was over when he refused to leave my dorm room unless I swore to him I would never ever tell anyone it happened. But still, he somehow convinced himself it didn’t happen, just as I wanted to convince myself it didn’t happen. When he spread rumors around the school that I raped him, that is when I wrote my paper. It was my attempt at clarity and health and TRUTH. But none of these apply to a rapist, who is only after taking power from someone with intent to harm them by it. When he tried to approach me again 6 weeks after my class reading, it was him trying to seize power and malign me all over again (luckily I walked away). And that’s why RAPE is, a CRIME OF POWER and VIOLENCE, not a crime of passion or sex.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:25 AM
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To a rapist, sex is about power. And it was clear from the article that this sick individual, Marsalis, is all about power. Lying is about power too. His combination of lies, drugs, and raping is a SICK SICK method of trying to destroy the women with whom he comes into contact. The most powerful and disturbing evidence about this case is Marsalis’s obvious INTENT to RAPE (i.e. intent to HARM) his victims! He DRUGGED THESE WOMEN for the purpose of raping them! How did no one seem to understand that? How did the jury glaze over the use of “DATE-RAPE DRUGS” and not count that as a strike against him? When Marsalis drugged these women, he did it before they even left the bar, or restaurant, or wherever. He didn’t even give them a chance to WILLINGLY have sex.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:25 AM
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Probably most of these woman, who admitted they were impressed by/attracted to him, would have willingly conceded. The ISSUE here is that he didn’t want them to willingly have sex, he WANTED to RAPE them. This is not about “sour grapes” on the part of the women involved. The term “sour grapes” implies regret or envy for a missed opportunity. The only opportunity these women missed was the opportunity to say “NO” when he drugged them so they could say yes when he wanted sex from them. Marsalis seemed to be doing a fine job of convincing these women he was a real catch and in defense attorney, Hexstall’s, painfully invalidating words, they would have “wanted to get down” with “Dr. Jeff.” The point of the trial was not the fact of whether they would concede before they passed out, or after they passed out, but rather that they DID NOT CONCEEDE the time he RAPED them. And that makes it RAPE. He drugged them regardless of whether or not they were a “sure thing”—he drugged them because he WA
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:25 AM
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My father emotionally abused me as a child. I had no choice but to assume I deserved it, because after all, no one would treat their CHILD badly if it wasn’t deserved, right? Like many women, the ill-treatment, or neglect from my father (or male role-model) growing up, later on landed me in bed with a deceiving ego-maniac, high on cocaine (something I’d never seen), who was going to do whatever he wanted to me regardless of my will. My father, who used to tickle me until I peed my pants long after I said “STOP,” would shame me for getting upset about it. When I tried to tell my own Dad that what he did was hurting me, he made fun of me for being “too sensitive” and ordered me to “cut it out.” So I never learned to feel righteous in saying “STOP.” I never learned it was okay, or that I was allowed to do it. And when the time came for it to save me from being raped, I couldn’t even figure out how I felt. I just lay there, taking it, just as I’d had to take the emotional abuse of my fathe
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:25 AM
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I think the answer to “why” these victims returned to their rapist is the same as why they were unhealthy enough to get duped into dating him in the first place: they didn’t want to come to terms with the horror, shock, embarrassment, and destruction that had befallen them. And, it was also their ego. Like me, they couldn’t admit that they’d been violated in that awful, disgusting way that only happens to underprivileged, unsavory, uneducated, unsophisticated characters who deserve for it to happen. Right? Because bad things happen to bad people, right? With all their knowledge, and power, and accomplishment, and ambitiousness, and good looks, and whatever else made them special, they couldn’t believe it could actually happen to them. That is why they wanted to “make it better” by revisiting their abuser. They couldn’t believe the R-word applied to them. The couldn’t believe someone had the nerve to burst their bubble of safety and willfully harm them. It hurts, ladies, I know.
Answering Lee's Question of "WHY?" (continued)
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 29, 2007 at 3:31 AM
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Be it socialization or upbringing these women are suffering from an inability to figure out what they wanted and did not want. I am willing to bet anything that there was a history of violation in all these women’s pasts (be it emotional and/or physical) and none of them had sufficiently dealt with it. The fact that they never got over prior abuse led them to being vulnerable enough to respond to this person in the first place. And their vulnerability led them to being raped. And they revisited their rapist for the same reason I did, because they thought (in a very childish way) that they could make it better, like trying to put a Band-Aid on a severed leg. Had they all gone to therapy to figure out WHY before going on trial, they’d have had no problem explaining to this jury—a jury whose majority might view itself as a racially oppressed, abused, assaulted, and possibly empathize with them for it— that the truth of their assault was just too painful to bear.
It shouldn't matter
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 4, 2007 at 1:40 PM
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It shouldn't matter what happened "after" the rape. The prosecutors are dropping the ball on this. All that should matter and all that should be presented to a jury is that the woman was drugged prior to having sex, was never given an opportunity to give permission or to reject the sexual intercourse, and so was not a conscious participant. That alone should be enough to prove rape. Not saying "no" is not and never has been the same as saying "yes".
Cultural Issues
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 5, 2007 at 9:15 AM
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One point often missed in situations such as this is that our society gives females the tools to fail at the game being played here. A typically preppy looking, supposedly successful man is seen as unthreatening, like Ted Bundy, whom I hear is one of Marsalis's heroes. At the same time women are expected to find the perfect mate and to be the perfect woman. These are socio-cultural expectations that run very deeply in one's psychy and reach beyond the psychological explanations for these types of crimes. This may also help to explain why these victims attempted to continue relationships with a psychopath. The attempt to "normalize" a situation is based in socio-pychological thought processes.
wow
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 9, 2007 at 1:26 PM
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Holy Sh*t, wow, Anonymous. I haven't even read the article and I can tell already that your comments should BE the article. Congrats on standing up proud in a world where psychology has proven that people would rather believe that bad things happen to bad people than realize that bad people do bad things willfully to good people.
Sick to my stomach
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 15, 2007 at 8:51 AM
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Marsalis makes me want to vomit, not just because of what he did but also what he makes me remember. I too re-engaged my rapist and I'm not sure I'll ever know why entirely. It wouldn't be until 3 years later that not only would I finally call it rape but I'd learn my reaction to it was in fact very common. My heart goes out to Marsalis' victims. It shouldn't happen to anyone :-(
Let me explain WHY!
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 15, 2007 at 1:01 PM
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Unfortuantley, I too have been the victim of this violation. In my case it was a trusted aquaintance and extremley influlentional and powerful Philadelphian. It has taken me almost a year and half to understand the counter intuitive reactions that were triggered by this violaltion. Not only was I physically violated but my entire world, as I knew it, was destroyed by the gravity of the violation of TRUST. Following my initial encounter I "spiraled out of control" and the only way that I thought I could regain any decency or control in my life was by returning to the scene ( it became an obsession) with this individual to either; rewrite history or take control of the situation myself. Perhaps once and for all people will understand that a woman acting counterintuively, does not make sense when you are on the outside looking in, yet time and time again women that have experienced this trauma repeat the same pattern hoping somehow to absolve themselves in the process rather than deal w
Of course this happens...
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 15, 2007 at 6:15 PM
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...when you put a bunch of uneducated borderline-prostitutes on the jury, then refuse to allow evidence that might educate them.
Thank You Philly Mag
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 16, 2007 at 7:41 AM
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Thank you Philly Mag. for addressing a very important issue. Perhaps it is time that we launch a movement to have the Pennsylvania Law changed and to allow testimonoy by experts that specialize in the psychology of rape victimms and the post traumatic stress disorder that ensues such a violation. This way a jury will have the opportunity to understand what happens to a woman's psychology when she has been sexually violated. Unquestionably, this sort of testimony by experts in the field would ensure a fair trial by intorducing "resonable doubt" in the minds of a jury by allowing them to understand the documented responses that women implement to try to heal themselves after such a trauma. It seems to me that our archaic Pa. laws are upheld today( mostly by men) to protect their fellow predators and even in some cases themselves! I suggest we use the momentum from this articl to contact our State Senators as well as our Federal Senator. Please keep posting so that we can mak
Watch out
Posted by Anonymous | Oct. 24, 2007 at 1:40 PM
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this man will get what is coming to him. I applaud Philly Mag for telling this disturbing story, and hope internet daters are reading. Never go ANYWHERE with a stranger you meet online, and never ever leave your drink unattended!
Justice finally served
Posted by Anonymous | Nov. 19, 2007 at 10:40 AM
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10-17-07: Thirty-four-year-old Marsalis, a former Wood River Valley resident, was sentenced to 21 years in prison last Friday in Philadelphia on two felony counts of sexual assault and one misdemeanor charge of unlawful restraint. He must serve at least half his prison time in the Philadelphia convictions before he is eligible for parole. In September Marsalis will be extradited to Blaine County, Idaho, regardless of the sentence imposed in Philadelphia. Then, Marsalis will be brought to Idaho around the first of the year with a trial likely in the spring of 2008. On account of rape charges brought by one of his victims who is a lesbian. His lie to police that he didn't have sex with her was deemed false, after his victim tested positive for his presence and her acknowledgment that she would not have voluntarily had sex with him, as she is a lesbian. To all you victims of Marsalis', from this nice guy you never met and who is happily married, you are beautiful, you can find th
Justice Finally Served
Posted by Anonymous | Nov. 19, 2007 at 10:54 AM
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Justice Finally Served
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Oh isin';t it ironic
Posted by Anonymous | Feb. 20, 2010 at 6:36 PM
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Yeah these Gold Digging women got raped all right and that is why the Jury was not inclined to convict him, they saw 10 gold diggers trying to scout for a husband who was a Doctor and they got a psycho who drugged them and had his way with them and they even sucked it up to Date him again to not upset the Good Doctor.
 
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